I just had a Baby Shower...?

Question

And i got amazing girft from all my friends but when it came to my Babys Daddy family ( His Mom and Step Sister) which i get along with great and talk to all the time.... they gave me used items from yard sales
Is it wrong for me to feel disgusted that me and my family and friends put out all this money and buy new stuff for my first child and there to cheap to buy new things and get used items which arent in good shape at all?? i.e Burn marks in the playpen and stains on the clothing and patches on the play pillow

The are extremely well off and havnt spent a dime yet on there first grandchild... im not shallow and not once have i asked the babys dad to help me financially which he hasnt only because i come from a well off family to but now i have to spend money on a playpen and drag the used one to the dump and pay to dump it

Answer 1

I'd be a little upset!
That's pretty tacky... If you do plan on using any of that stuff Please look and make sure none of it has been recalled by the manufacturer, don;t use old car seats (you never know if it was in an accident), change all used mattress pads and buy new.. This will reduce your chances of SIDS, and Clean it all if you plan on using it.

Honestly, if they couldn;t afford to buy something new they could have bought something Cheaper yet sentimental... Like babies first Photoalbum, Soft teddy bear, or just a simple out fit! ... none of which would have been more then $20.

Answer 2

My wife and I just had a baby shower too. She was upset about getting a stroller that we had already bought. We also had people who didn't RSVP, some who didn't show up, and there were a few strangers who wandered into the room we were renting for th party.

It is okay to feel disgusted. But please let it go. You have a lot to look forward to. Your emotions don't need to be in a twist because of bad gifts. Your hormones are already out of whack. We all have family members who are bad a gift giving. It can either be a cause of resentment, or something you and your "baby daddy" can laugh at as an inside joke.

The gifts sound like they were pretty bad. Most of us know that it is unacceptable to give something in such a bad condition. If you say something to them, how are they going to react. You can't really change them. It may end up causing a rift that takes a long time to get over.

You said they were well off. Unless you see a bank acocunt, credit report and asset portfolio, you can't really tell who is well off these days. Just because somebody has nice clothes, a nice car and a nice house, does not mean that they are well off. They could be running up credit cards to keep up appearances and you would never even know it.

Take the gracious route and be thankful. At least they were there and they brought you something. Tell them you couldn't use the items. "I guess we spilled something on them and we couldn't get the stains out." It gets you off the hook for not keeping that stuff out of the trash can. If they knew about the condition before they gave you that stuff, they will get the message.

Answer 3

I had a youngster bathe for all four of my kids. Like you, I now not had the earlier youngster's units while I had the following one. (My 1st three kids are 5yrs aside, the third one used to be a lady after which my final little one is 7 yrs more youthful than my daughter.) If individuals wish to provide you a bath then allow them to. The rule is that you do not provide your self a bath. But...It makes much less matters so that you can have got to purchase. I see not anything fallacious with taking a shower for your entire kids. Is the first one the one one that is think to get this distinctive therapy? I do not consider so. Back within the day while individuals had a little one 10 months to a yr aside, you did not have got to have a further bathe given that you continue to had the youngster stuff and so much youngster units had been unisex-white dressing robes and diapers-however these days so much individuals wait a few years or extra among kids, so that you grow to be desiring to exchange the whole lot from the first or next move circular. It isn't written in stone to have most effective one million youngster bathe. The individuals who say that you just would not have a further are both stingy, imply-hearted or simply did not get fine bathe items themselves. ha ha ha. That is what you have got to say to the terrible individuals. Laugh it off and experience your Shower or Showers.

Answer 4

I think that it is ok to get yard sale stuff but NOT at your baby shower. I got yard sale stuff from family but it was either before or after my ababy shower and they made sure it wasnt nasty or gross before they gave it to me and they cleaned it. But I think you have all the right to feel disgusted by that but don't hurt there feelings just use the new stuff becuase actually to me I think it would be healthier for the baby because you dont know what the other people had before you got it.

Answer 5

It's not the fact that it was second hand cause maybe that is all they could afford but the fact that it wasn't in good shape at all is just plain rude they should have just got nothing at all and told you they would make it up to you other then embarrass you with those gifts even if they didn't have alot of money Binky's and bottles and bibs are not that expensive they could have bought those new and in good condition for the price they paid for those poor excuse for gifts!!

Answer 6

Like almost everyone else, I agree, Second hand items are alright, as long as they are 'gently' used...Burn holes and such are unacceptable..

I wouldn't say anything to them, Just take the items and get rid of them, I understand it's aggravating that you have to haul it away and pay to get rid of it..But...You don't need any stress during your pregnancy (Which, if you say something, You might end up with)...

OR- I'm not sure where you're from, But instead of having to pay to 'dump' the stuff, and having to haul it somewhere, You could try getting rid of it?!?

Try this site http://www.freecycle.org or http://www.craigslist.com

There are people that just cannot afford anything better and might be willing to use it. *shrug*..

Congrats on the new little bundle of joy!

Answer 7

Hey,
For my first baby girl baby shower, my family, not my mom and dad thought, bought me alot of dollar store junk!!! I was so disappointed and so wasn't my mom and dad!!! Because most of the people who came did have money!!! But with my second little girl, when I got married, my husband's mom would go get clothes at yard sale, and I am talking about UGLY clothes....I would not put my baby in those outfits at all!!!!!!!!! Then my husband's granny gave us this old playpen......I gave it away to this poor girl who had twins, b/c I sure wasn't going to use it....If I was you, just take it to your local charity office...I am sure they have to have one around where you live.....Just sit down and talk to your baby's dad and try to get him to ask his mom why they didn't buy something nice and new....Good Luck!!!! ~Congratulations~

Answer 8

That is kind of tacky and insensitive. If they couldn't afford to buy you presents individually they could have pooled their money and bought something small or a gift card. Let it go. It isn't worth stressing over. Good luck and enjoy all the nice things you got.

Answer 9

I'm sorry, but I wouldn't even touch those things with a ten foot pole! That is just wrong for your mother-in-law to get you those things for your first baby, if it is any baby! I mean, she could have just bought one new thing instead of the cheap and gross stuff! I wouldn't use it at all, if I were you. I wouldn't be rude to her about it, though.

Answer 10

Maybe that is all they could afford....you can't expect much from your "Baby's Daddy's" family...that term alone gives me an idea of what the baby will be dealing with.

I'd just say thank you, but don't use them...they may not be safe.