2006-11-04 13:39:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
depends on which person your refering to???????? hmmmmmmmmm. xxxxxxxxxx
2006-11-05 01:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...tough one. I've never had to deal with anyone with more than one face, but I suppose I'd pick the face you can identify with the most--maybe the most attractive one, or the one that says things you like--and just focus on that one while ignoring the other(s). Which one does everyone else like?
BTW, how did they do this? Is this one of those "total face transplants" they've been talking about lately? I was under the impression those people were replacing an unwanted face with a new one, not getting additional faces. Plastic surgery these days...amazing!!
2006-11-04 14:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by mapcat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is a colleague then you have to make sure that you do not allow them to draw you in to intrigues and always make sure that your work cannot be sabotaged. Keep your private life to your self and don't give them any info with which to harm you.
If it is your boss or any superior then you are in trouble and may need to start looking for another job! You cannot beat them at their own game. Sorry for the bad news!
Been there done it and now wear the t shirt!
2006-11-04 14:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by kiku 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To firstly recognise that joining the brigade who are also against them and who also feel victimised doesn't help you or them. Feeling victimised is the opposite to being empowered to deal with the situation. So if we are attacking them back or feeling helpless, then we will remain stuck in the situation, or stuck with the issue.
Recognise that their behaviour is a result of them being in pain, and to the point where they can't help themselves at the moment. They may not even realise the full extent of their behaviour. Recognising this will help us to get out of the feeling of being a victim and to one of feeling empowered.
Accept our own feelings about them. It's okay to feel anger, hatred, frustration, fear etc. But it's not okay to act those feelings out in a destructive way. So we need to set some boundaries for ourselves if need be. This will help us to feel empowered.
Communication. Find a new way of communicating with them, but in a way that isn't attacking. There is a great book on the subject called 'Non Violent Communication' by Marshall Rosenberg (try Amazon). And also, set an intention to be a peace maker in this situation.
Try to understand why they may be acting in this way. This isn't always easy. But we can, at least, try. A good way to begin this is to find a situation somewhere in our life where we have actually been multi-faced. It might have been an occasion at school or college even. There probably is one situation where we have acted like this. And if we find it we can examine it to see why we behaved like this back then. What were we feeling? What was happening or had happened in our life that we were reacting to?
If we cannot find such an experience in our own lives, it may be that we would rather die than behave like that. This could be because we witnessed someone else way back who acted in such a way, and that situation and the way it made us feel could
be fuelling the current situation. It's one of the hardest things to do but perhaps we are being called upon to forgive someone from back then.
With the current situation try to see that their behaviour isn't the trust of who they really are. It is just a series of masks that is covering a frightened inner child who is calling for help ~ but using attackful and deceiving behaviour because they actually feel so bad about themselves deep down that they probably believe they don't deserve anyone to be nice to them. And they try to make this belief true by turning others against them through ttheir behaviour.
Simply beginning to understand why and how this has come about will help to release the intensity of the situation.
2006-11-04 19:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sassie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Candor is impossible. Dive deep and get quiet and pull back and don't say anything. Just observe for awhile longer. Continue to be kind but do not extend yourself. Keep observing, also, the effect this person is having upon you.
2006-11-04 14:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not nice, indeed. Never trust this person, never share with them anything of importance to you. Only tell him/her things that you would want other people to know about you. Never tell them your plans. Keep communication at the most superficial level possible.
2006-11-04 23:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Eve 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I understand what you mean, but Who says you 'have to deal with this?' You don't have to do anything and are free to ignore it
You supply no additional information, so I assume that this really isn't serious (enough) to warrant further comment!
Sash.
2006-11-04 13:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too bad we couldn't just punch them in the nuts (or female nuts if a girl)
http://www.google.ca/search?hl=en&q=how+to+deal+with+bad+coworkers&btnG=Search&meta=all&meta=cr%3Dall
2006-11-04 13:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by cancausecancer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I subltley let them know I know how they are and don't give them time of day
2006-11-04 13:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by jlcha541 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont take him serious.. and at the same time beware of his moves.
u never can tell when he is doing "finish him"
2006-11-04 14:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by D *)sukky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋