mine was a mere 8. i know there were alot more that had numbers in the 100's. im not trying to bring up bad memories, im trying to understand who im relating to.
2006-11-04 13:28:02 · 21 answers · asked by shyboy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No I don't remember...you know I used to write peoples names on the calendar when they died...sorta in black in the bottom of the calendar date square...not to be morbid...but because I didn't want to forget any of them...these weren't just aquaintances...they were ex's and people we'd had over to dinner etc..............when we got to 50 names I said to my partner "I don't think I can do this anymore"--but we did..and every year we copy the anniversaries of their deaths onto a new calendar...just to remember.these people....I don't want to sound morbid here, I just want to remember my friends....but.....It was a horrible time...every time the phone rang you were afraid it was going to be someone else, or someone who had tested positive and committed suicide (because there were no treatments)...any gay person who lived through it knows what it was like..........
2006-11-04 13:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
One is to many to have attended. Of course the real attention didn't come until Rock Hudson died...
I've been to too darn many funerals, I've seen the Quilt.
I've known many heterosexuals who have died as well as homosexuals.
To those who claim to have "come out late" and never gone to a funeral, good for you, I hope you never have to go.
Seeing a body lying in a coffin, barely even resembling the picture or face of the person you used to know....to have known someone, alive, laughing, sparkle in their eye, to watch them become frail, beaten down and aged, withered and in pain, all within a short time...it's quite painful.
And then you have the idiots, the ones who bash for fun, laughing at victims of this horrible plague... Karma is a real nasty thing when it finally rolls around. I'm not a Christian, but if I were, I know the lowest, most despicable and torturous pits of hell are saved just for people like you.
2006-11-04 14:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have been fortunate enough to have never known anyone who has died from AIDS, but I was in school during the 80's and didn't come out until the 90's.
2006-11-04 13:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only one.
I grew up in the suburbs of Chicago so there just wasn't a lot of exposure to the gay community. Most of us were all closeted and even though we could recognise who we were, we didn't associate as a community out in the burbs.
The only AIDS related funeral I attended was for the owner of a local bookstore and icecream shop. He was a very sweet person, always welcoming to everyone and knew his regular customers by name. He was really nice to the high school students who would hang out at the icecream shop after school and never attempted anything inappropriate.
Everyone knew he had a partner who had died a few year earlier, but no one knew why. At least not that anyone would talk about.
When he died only those of us who "knew" or 'understood' attended. His own family didn't come to his funeral, save one brother who stood back from the rest of the mourners.
When he did die, he left his current partner penniless. There were no legal protections back then, his partner lost everything. The businesses, their houses, everything.
His family took over everything they had worked together to attain and grow, then they sold it all out from under him.
Some of us tried to offer our support and even places to live to his surviving partner. But after the way his family had treated the partner, the partner just wanted to leave town.
2006-11-04 13:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
None. I was born in 1982.
Apart from 2 grandparents, the only other funeral I've been to was when I was 18, but it wasn't AIDS-related.
Sorry to hear that you've lost friends - I suppose everyone has, one way or another.
2006-11-04 13:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by JBoy Wonder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was still in middle school in the 80's so i did not attend any but over the last ten years i have gone to 2. I'm afraid so many people my age and younger do not play it safe because they think the wonder drugs will save them if they do become infected. I think my friends get sick of me preaching about safe sex.
2006-11-04 13:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by SeattleBloke 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i had 3 in the 80's and 1 in the 90's the last was my best friend and she was a sweetheart. and about bringing up memories i think we need to be reminded these good people should not be forgotten. if you want to chat im me anytime
2006-11-04 14:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by jusme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wasnt born in the 80's
2006-11-06 01:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by Being myself© 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the mostly white, mostly straight boondocks that I grew up in, there wasn't much AIDS in the '80s, but I attended my uncle's funeral in the '90s. He was an IV drug abuser. No one's immune.
2006-11-04 13:31:56 · answer #9 · answered by vita64 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was talking to a co-worker a while back that is bisexual and very sex-positive. Out of her circle of 42 poeple only her and one guy are still around. The other 40 died of AIDS.
2006-11-04 15:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋