2006-11-04 12:55:17 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
The simple rule is this.
We don't forgive people for them. We forgive people for ourselves.
Forgiving is a selfish act that results in self-growth. Until you forgive people who've hurt you, you will never grow past the emotional level you are at regarding those people. You can forgive someone without ever even telling them and still benefit from the act.
Some people carry hate right to the grave, never realizing that all their life, all they are doing is hurting themselves. Life is too short. Forgive and grow.
2006-11-04 13:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not waste time to Forgive. If you can forgive those who trouble you. You will in Gods eye be a great person and God will reward you for it. Time is never wasted in Doing good. To forgive is one of the best things you can do. Blessings
2006-11-04 21:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by R C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Forgiveness" is not a matter of saying, "What you did was OKAY." That's not the point, allowing others a pass on bad behavior.
Forgiveness is really a way of saying you will not let memories of what happened rule your life. Forgiving someone means you will forget about it, so they do not have power over you.
Think of someone whose teacher was a bully in grade school. Now that the someone is grown up, they can either play over the details of being bullied over and over again, or they can forgive the teacher and move on with their life.
Forgiveness is hardly ever about the other person. It's always about yourself, and eliminating one more piece of emotional baggage you just don't need. Don't give someone else the satisfaction of ruling your life by letting them keep you pissed off.
2006-11-04 21:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look. Let's be real. Some people's actions demonstrate that they have no remorse for what they have done to you. They aren't sorry and they don't care! So, should you forgive them? They sure don't deserve it, do they?
What does it mean to forgive? Well, it means numerous things but basically, in the context of what I would share with you this, it means that " you let it go." "don't hold it against them anymore". Thus, you won't flare up every time you see them, think of them or hear their names. You'll stay genuinely calm and at ease with YOURSELF.
Harboring resentment is like carrying burning coals in your hands and holding on to them until the time comes that you get a chance to burn those that hurt you. Let me ask you, in the mean time, who is really hurting here? uh, ...... Y- O-U !
You'll understnd this when I'm done, so stay with me here. :)
Forgive others (as much as you are reasonably able to), if not for them, for yourself! Try to let it go for your own peace of mind and well being. Doesn't that make sense? If whatever they did doesn't bug you anymore, you won't have to deal with the negative emotions of holding on. Right? Who, then, comes out on top? Y- O- U!
Now, does that sound like a waste of time? Learn to forgive, if not for their benefit, for your own. try it. Best wishes.
2006-11-04 21:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by Frank M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. 100% yes. Actually, it will make you a better person. Just forgive them and if you are still around them sometimes... the Bible says "heap coals of kindness on their heads." It's talking about your enimies. When you talk to them, be extremely nice even though it might be painful for you. That will in turn make them angry and you'll be beating them at their own game. Act like their mean words don't matter to you. You are supposed to love your enimies. I know that sounds sooooo hard, but it's true. Just be nice and forgive them because it will create a good feeling in you. And if they continue, tell someone so you can get help.
Godd luck!
God bless you!!!!!!
2006-11-04 21:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by juliefan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! because you could have a miserable life if you dwell on it and not forgive or forget. I have been angry at so many people for hurting me and I wanted revenge on them "Sweet Revenge" But, it took a lot out of me to be angry all the time and maybe some people I didn't forget, but, I don't dwell on it anymore. My reason is, they could have a miserable life now and their day will come to whatever. I am happier I don't dwell on things anymore, as long as I am a good person and treat others the way they treat me, that's all I could ask for.
2006-11-04 21:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question really is,do you waste time thinking about them. Forgiving someone isn't a waste of time unless you feel you are wasting your time.
2006-11-04 20:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by kelliekareen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is obviouly tied into: why are you being harrassed? is it a test or a prophetic message, or even worse to come, in warning of either their or your failure? and will determine if i should be forgiving them, or they should be forgiving me. many forms of harassment intimidation, are setting people up for a latter subtle seduction. and you do not give enough information here to make this determination. and the answers as to why, may not be that easy for you to see. it is hard to see what is actualy happening in any loop, when you are part of the loop. i would advise great caution, as long as you are part of the loop. and trying to find some one who is not part of the loop, can prove very dangerous.
2006-11-04 21:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by yehoshooa adam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness isn't a waste of time. Once you forgive people who have hurt you, they no longer have any control over how you feel. You can let go of your bitterness and resentment and truly be happy.
2006-11-04 20:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by Lanani 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is not a waste of time...but as for the ones who harrass you, pray for them to understand the pain they cause you and pray that they may feel your pain to understand...and when this finally happens to them, you will be able to forgive freely.
My prayer is for you...Good luck.
2006-11-04 20:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by mysticmyriah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋