What can I say when a woman is trying to put the moves on my husband at a party? How would you handle it?

Question

I don't want to be considered jeolous or controling. Please I'm tried of these women. If you want to call them that. There is one thing for being friendly and then there is overly friendly. Do I just not care? And no, these women are not interested in talking with me either. please help. serious answers only please.

Thank You everyone for your answers!

Answer 1

Hopefully your husband wants your help and isn't putting out signals to attract this type of attention. That's another whole problem altogether.

But what I would do if this is just some ordinary floozy putting the moves on your guy--and I've seen this done very well--is to go up to them and join the conversation with the attitude conveying complete confidence that you are welcome in the conversation. HE will welcome you, right, even if she won't? Maybe put your arm around your husband. If he becomes standoffish, again, that's a problem; he needs to welcome you into the conversation.

Then be sweet as pie to her. Ask her about herself. Take an interest. Never betray that you are anything but completely assured of your wonderful relationship with your husband. Ideally, bore her with prattle until she leaves on her own (getting her to excuse herself from you two is the best way, it's a much stronger position than walking away). It doesn't matter if she's interested in you, believe me, in fact, use the fact that she isn't! Then stay nearby your husband in case she comes back. If you can't bore her to death, you and hubby will have to excuse yourself from her company and move on.

If she gets too pushy or nasty to you personally, say something very pointed in a very nice tone (like "peddle your wares to someone who's interested, honey"). But never, NEVER get bitchy. It's beneath you.

Answer 2

Your husband needs to make clear that he isn't interested. Also, when you are at a party don't worry about what those women think about you. They aren't respecting your marriage by trying to attract him. Women today try to get all they can and don't care if they are encroaching. Speak up for yourself when you don't like it. Let her know that she should back off and you're aware of what she is doing. Don't listen to her excuses.

I remember once a long time ago a woman went up to my husband and pinched/tickled him on his side while he was in line at the buffet. She had never met me before and there were many others present from his company. I walked right up to her and said very calmly and simply, "Woman, did you just put your hands on my husband?" Needless to say she was shocked and began spewing out excuses. I just walked away. She never did it again nor did she ever speak to me.
During the summer at a ball game one of the coaches had a wife that always wanted to whisper in my husband's ear to speak with him. I spoke with my husband and told him that with a woman like this all you have to do is take 1 step backwards and she will get the message and that since he had encouraged it for so long that it was his fault she was so blatent in her flirtation. I asked him if he had ever seen her whisper in my ear to speak to me. The answer of course was no. The next time she tried that he backed up. She got the message and moved on to another husband. We never heard from her again at any game. Never be too proud to protect what is valuable to you. Good Luck!

Answer 3

You shouldn't have to handle it.
Talk to your husband and explain how uncomfortable you are with these women.
He can either handle it or the both of you need to find new friends or quit allowing yourselves to be in these type of situations.
Course if you want to continue your social life you can hang on your spouse's arm and just be a nuisance to the other women who are trying to talk with your husband.
Chances are that he is one of those people who needs the attention of those other women to make him feel secure. . as was the case of my exhusband therefore there was nothing I could do when I was in the situation you are in and every time I tried,I was the one that ended up looking like the fool.
Men like this eventually drain women like you and me and in the end they usually end up moving on and on and on as their appettite is hard to satisfy.
I would almost bet you that these social events you attend are ones where alcohol is served and when this is the case,all inhibitions are lessened and eventually something is most likely to happen other than talk so watch your social activities and find other things to do together.

Answer 4

Stick by your man's side. There isn't anything you can say to these women that will stop them from acting like this. You just need to make your presence known, and make it clear to them visually that he is very much married and that you don't appreciate this kind of behaviour.

You could also discuss this with your husband to see how he feels about the attention he is receiving from these other women but make it known to him that you don't like it, and have trust in him that he would be faithful to the end of time.

Answer 5

Forget what others think( controling or jealous) thats Your man. I would actually check him first because hes allowing these women to be so friendly. if he wasnt as friendly back, then the women would get the picture and not be throwing themselves on him. and if there not interested in talking to you then definetly dont let your man talk to them. you and him are 1 a PACKAGE! GO get yo man and let them h o e s know!

Answer 6

let them know you don't appreciate it, in a nice way, but as a matter of fact way. u have to set boundaries the boundaries deal with you and not others, the boundaries represent what you will allow and what u won't. don't let these women be in control,figure out what you want to do and stick to it.decide what your limits are, and what you will no longer tolerate,and you will be ready for them the next time.don't give in to any destructive behavior, that would humiliate you or your husband. also your hubby needs to speak up and tell the other women he is happily married and not interested.

Answer 7

Talk to your husband and tell him that you would appreciate it if you could help each other out at parties by giving each other a sign when you want to leave someone and move on.Tell him that you hate making small talk with boring people. You won't look jealous if you use the excuse that they were boring you. Good luck! This works for my husband and I.

Answer 8

I married a very good looking man and he knew it.so i no what you are talking about.When ever we would go out he was like a woman magnet they would go out of there way to talk to him it didn't matter that I was there with him.Women can be the most t traitorous people in the world.If she wants your man you are in a lot of trouble because she will go out of her way to make him feel like he is the greatest lover she has ever been with.Mean while you are sitting at home thinking everything is ok with your marriage.Go every where with your husband,don't make the same mistake I made

Answer 9

I would first talk to your husband and tell them when these women flirt he needs to end the conversation and you need to politely tell these women that it is not right that they flirt with your husband. Tell them how it makes you feel and if that dont work a good fight always will. Just dont put up with it. It will not stop if u dont put a stop to it

Answer 10

I think the real question is....what your HUSBAND should say. If I where him....I would tell them "you know my WIFE really does not like the way you are acting....and neither do I. He may find it a ego boost....you need to tell him that it really bothers you and let him handle it.
OR....you could just let is slide....after all he is going home with you not them....and that will drive them nuts. Kinda nice to know that you have something that they want sooo bad and cant have *S*