I have joint physical custody of my son. During the week he is with me, my ex-husband's fiancée has repeatedly approached me. I have asked her several times (verbally and in writing) to respect my privacy and not to disturb me especially during my son's sport events. She does not respect my request. She has even walked in front of my house and come by the playground next to us. She lives in the same subdivision/community, but 3 streets over. What can I do to protect my privacy? Can I get a restraining order to keep her away from me, especially during my son's activities which take place outside of where we live?
2006-11-04 12:50:06 · 7 answers · asked by North Carolina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This situation has gone out for over 1 year. I just want to be able to enjoy the time with my son without being interrupted in any way. This type of intrusion only happens during my custodial week. I would like to be able to have the ability to enjoy the time with him without worrying about the next time she will try to talk to me. Each time , I have asked her not to talk to me she can not accept it and will stay around me until she feels heard. I should have some protective rights concerning my custodial time.
2006-11-04 13:17:00 · update #1
I don't know if you can get a retraining order...but it sure wouldn't hurt to try. In my opinion this would be considered stalking as she is being obsessive. I would certainly take this to the authorities and see what if anything they can do.
I wish you much success in getting this woman to respect your privacy.
2006-11-04 13:14:40 · answer #1 · answered by ne_patriots2005 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed the situation with your ex husband? What does he have to say about the situation? Also, what does your son feel about the situation? Some of these questions are key to handling what you should do next.
If your ex husband ignores or refuses to do a thing about it, you should maybe consider doing it. However, I must warn you that restraining orders are hard to enforce when it involves a family situation at times.
If your son feels uncomfortable about the situation, he should speak up about it. Some people might blow it off unless it effects a child at times.
Is she making a scene at the sporting events? You could just mention that she is acting crazy and brush it off. She could be doing this just to act out and to bother you. She could possibly enjoy annoying you.
When she gets annoying in private, just tell her you hope if her and your ex split that the next fiance is annoying just like her if she and your ex have a child. Second marriages tend to have a higher divorce rate than first marriages.
Good luck!
2006-11-04 14:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. You can have a restraining order put on here to where she is not allowed within 50 feet of you or your home. However out in public it is more difficult to enforce. She has every right to be at a public playground and any event that is going on at the playground, when you are out in public and she shows up where you are that is NOT invading your privacy. You can have your lawyer disucss with your ex's lawyer that she is not to approach you when out in public though and if she does not comply you can ask your lawyer to intervene.
2006-11-04 12:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try talking to your x if you can and let him know how upsetting it is for u and if that don't work go to the police and ask there advice,Good Luck.PS if you do get a restraining order it can be enforced in public I know I got one put out on some1 and they had to leave the place if I was there first if they were I left.
2006-11-04 12:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by wizardalli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't threatening you, a restraining order won't fly. A public place like a field or playground isn't deepest like your place. As annoying because it somewhat is to hearken to, attempt to make some variety of peace along with her for the sake of your son so he's no longer pulled aside. i in my opinion can comprehend your no longer desirous to speak to her, yet while she is keen to stand on the different area of the sphere and cheer your son on, then enable her, it may basically make you seem stable. via insisting on her staying away this way you basically come off sounding bitter and petty and offended. which you probable are, yet she is going to be on your sons existence and its the childs happiness that's maximum intense, and hes no longer likely to be happy if he's compelled to hearken to countless courtroom battles and papers being served and yelling and anger. Please, think of of him first and artwork something out, a baby can't have too lots of people who shield him.
2016-10-21 06:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by connely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having trouble understanding why is it that she is approaching you and for what reason...and why would you feel the need to notify her verbally and written about the matter....
2006-11-04 13:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can unless she is causing physical harm or threatning you.
2006-11-04 12:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by earthdweller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋