1st she always speaks before she thinks of what she's saying to people. kind of innocent ignorances.
for the past 5 years, whenever we have a bad arguement, we both are very good at verbally cutting the other. This then leads to either the silent treatment that can go for a week to two or she'll come out and ask me if I'm looking at divorce, which doesn't even come up in the arguements. this has happened during the past 4 times we were at the point of the silent treatment.
I'm beginning to get the impression that it she whose looking to divorce me.
2006-11-04 12:43:42 · 10 answers · asked by wayne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she is wanting a divorce.........Its the one accusing who's doing ao it would be her that wants it
2006-11-04 12:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women want affection and emotion from a man. When you argue with someone you love, it takes it's toll on both partners. I know she is probably just trying to get some reaction from you. She wants comfort and security in the relationship. Believe it or not, if you both get as bad at cutting the other down as you say, I'm sure this can raise doubts in her mind as to your love for her. Sounds like she is grasping for your love and desire. Marriage is rough but if you have this love for her, please tell her.
2006-11-04 12:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY NOT TO ARGUE WITH YOUR WIFE, WHY DON'T YOU SIT YOUR WIFE DOWN BEFORE YOU TWO START TO ARGUE, AND ASK HER IT SHE IS SEEING SOME ONE. ALSO ASK HER WHY IS SHE ALWAYS WANTS TO TALK DIVORCE WHEN EVER YOU TWO HAVE A PROBLEM. IT SEEMS AS IF SHE MAY BE MESSING UP, SHE IS THE ONLY ONE TALKING DIVORCE. JUST ASK HER WHAT IS THAT SHE WANTS, BECAUSE NO ONE WANTS TO ARGUE ALL THE TIME ABOUT NOTHING.
2006-11-04 12:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by BLUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you two really need to sit down and find out what you want. Just because she suggests divorce doesnt mean she is hell bent on it. Actually it probably means she wants you to tell her that NO WAY you dont want a divorce....She is fishing.but, you are her husband and you need to give her that comfort.
2006-11-04 12:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by mesosmart 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've said it before because I needed reassurance. I didn't get it. It (the relationship) is going no where but down and he doesn't seem interested in doing anything to fix it and I've run out of ideas. I say reassure her and try talking when you're not angry.
2006-11-04 13:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not looking for a divorce she is frustrated with the situation and doesn't know how to make it better exhausting all avenues in her mind (i had same prob) my hubby and i decided to get some outside help to put things into perspective it is great now so please suggest it but don't push it
hang in there
2006-11-04 12:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by tamah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say things out of anger!!!!
Some people do not know how to communicate in a positive way.
Your mind is saying, I must express what I amd feeling but it comes in a negative way!!!
Have you thought of counseling?????
2006-11-04 12:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 her smoothly w/o argument. u must b the more mature person & rationalize the facts
2006-11-04 12:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. San 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right....she's just looking for validation for what she really wants...
2006-11-04 12:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask her.
2006-11-04 12:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋