look i have been haveing sex with out a condom and i just had a baby 3 months ago yeah i no that is stupid i wasn't thinking cuz i know that it is real easy to get pegnant what sould i do i no that you should wait one year untill u have a baby but i don't like abortions i never had one or should i just keep the baby my cousin can't have kids maybe i should gave it to her would that be wrong i need help someone tell me what to do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
2006-11-04 12:25:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
congratulations, for starters. I think it would be good to give the baby to your cousin, unless you decide you want the baby.. It is not going to be any different then if you had twins.
2006-11-04 12:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are some really great plus sides to having your kids close together. They can help eachother with a LOT of things growing up instead of one of them always being years behind the other. Someone else said it would be similar to having twins and I agree! Some ppl have two babies at the same time.. In your case they'll be a year apart. I know you're stressed out. Babies are hard. But this is such a great blessing in your life. Once you get over the shock of being pregnant again, you'll learn to love the idea. And btw, I'm sooo glad to hear you're against abortion. If you do choose to give your child for adoption that's always better than killing it. But I have a feeling you'll decide that having two kids close in age will be just perfect.
2006-11-04 20:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by ms pokeylope 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a very personal decision that only you can make; we only can give an opinion based on what would we do if in your situation. You may want to terminate the pregnancy; if you opt for this, do it ASAP to minimize the risks of complications. Or, you can carry the baby to term and give it up for adoption [maybe your infertile cousin would be happy to adopt it]; just make sure that you won't regret it later on, because once your baby is adopted you can't get it back. Finally, you may consider having the baby and keeping it; but take in account that you'll have two babies under the age of one year to care for and that's a lot of work. Any way you look at it, the last word is yours because you, and only you is the person who will have to live with the consequences of the choice you make, so don't feel bad with the decision you take, whichever it may be.
2006-11-04 20:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by la_nena_sabe... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you can not take care of the child when having another small child then you should most def try talking to your cousin and seeing if she wants the baby. With this you will be able to see the baby and you will know the baby is being taken care of and with someone you know and trust.
This is not a rare thing, dozens of people get pregnant on accident and give their baby to a family member who can not have kids, thier are even people who get pregnant on purpose for a family member or friend who can not get pregnant. I watch the Discovery channel and have seen many people get pregnant for family members, I have even seen mothers get pregnant for their daughters who can not have kids.
One thing you have to think about before talking to your cousin is that by the time your baby arrives the baby you have now will be a year old. Yes it is challenging to take care of two infants but it is not impossible. My moms friend got pregnant just a months after having her first child at the age of 35, she was told by doctors she could not have children but a miracle occurred and she got pregnant at 35 then no sooner she had her son she was pregnant again.
My moms friends daughter was born when her son was about to turn 11 months old and yea it was hard for her but she got threw it and now her son and daughter are 5 and 4. Sometimes is can be easier having two kids who are really close in age, they want to spend less time with mom and spend more time with each other so this way mom can get more time to herself or do the things that she wants to do. When having one child the child wants your attention on them all the time leaving no time for you to do anything where with two kids about the same age can play together and occupy each other rather them coming to you to occupy them.
I am not saying they will not want you to come and play once in a while with them but it will certainly be less then if you only had one child. I have a two year old and all he ever wants to do is play with me where with my moms friend her kids always want to play with each other rather then have her play with them.
You should really sit down with your babies dad and discuss all this with him and see what would be best for you two, if you decide it is best to give the baby up then talk to your cousin about adopting the baby, I am sure she will be flattered.
2006-11-04 20:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey these things happen...my mother had 9 of us in 10 years.... you will be alright..look at the support on this page alone...sometimes strangers offer the kindest words....I understand that we don't have your dilemma...however, please do NOT make a decision until you are absolutely 100% calm........and for now...i congratulate you...you have a tender heart and a lovely nature..it shows through the pain of not knowing what to do..you have a lot of courage to bring it to a public format...i am in a 'predicament too right now'.....no details.....i sincerely wish you the best....from my heart to yours.....take care.....always. Thumbs up for your courage!
Lioncourt
2006-11-04 20:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not give the baby away. you sound very young and immature i think you should look after yourself and your babies and stop sleeping around.
2006-11-04 20:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by hope v 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do not give your child away you will regret it the rest of your life.
2006-11-04 20:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Mary Smith 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
keep your baby honey you'll regret it if you don't you'll be ok just pray
2006-11-04 20:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by momofangels 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋