we both were not ready.. But it was really the only option i could choose. I told him he could just go if he couldnt handle it.. but he stayed. I wasnt.. and am still not ready to be a mother. But im trying and am Looking at the gift that a baby is. He isnt mean about it. just very un interested in it all.. I just want him to show a little bit of emotion. Is this wrong of me?? should i just let him be?
2006-11-04 12:06:36 · 11 answers · asked by pladedah 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
A lot of guys won't feel anything significant until that baby is in his arms. Sorry, it's weird but true. When you start to show, and the baby starts moving so he can actually feel that living thing growing inside of you, he will get into it. If he doesn't, tell him to take a month off and re-evaluate his feelings. You need some reassurance, and that's fine. If he can't cope, you both need to figure out what you really mean to each other, and what this baby means to the both of you.
2006-11-04 12:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by Angela M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An unexpected child should not be converted into an unwanted child. Anyway you are going ahead. So rather than cribbing about his lack of interest try to understand his dilemma of having to choose between you and solitude, of the disturbances in his plans for life, etc.All this mess could well have been avoided if the two of you had been more careful about timing the Baby. Now that the reality we have is something else, make the most of the situation. Don't get upset over his lack of interest. If he didn't care for you , he would have left you and gone away. Since he is very much with you , don't do things which will complicate life for both of you.
Men always take care of their children once they come to the world. Go ahead with peace of mind!
2006-11-04 20:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont really worry about it right now, most guys are not into pregnancies anyways. They go about there business like nothing is really happening. He will come around when u start to show and when the baby starts to kick. My husband was that way with my second, he was into it but not all goo goo about it. My sister in law is preggos and her man does not really care at all, they were trying for a baby but now that she is preggos he goes about his own business like usual. Just be glad that he is sticking by your side with this, hes a good man. Good Luck and congrats on your new baby!! =)
2006-11-04 20:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young couples, guys in particular, can have trouble with facing the fact that they are going to become parents. Your boyfriend might feel that with a baby in the picture he won't be able to pursue his plans for the future. You can tell him that isn't the case, and you would appreciate his support in this difficult time. You need to work out some kind of plan so you'll be able to finish school and/or get jobs once the baby arrives. It can be done.
2006-11-04 20:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he is afraid, if he is a first time dad then the way he is acting is totally normal.
He will come around in his own time, most guys come around once they ehar the heartbeat or see an ultrasounds, I remember my cousin getting pregnant at 18 and her boyfriend was not interested at all but once he saw the baby on the sonogram monitor he got all excited about it.
2006-11-04 21:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of guys dont show much emotion towards pregnancy. my husband started being affectionate to our first baby when the baby got "interesting" and he could play with him. plus you`re overly emotional and your hormones are out of control because you`re pregnant. once they put the baby in your arms, you`re gonna instantly be and feel like a mom. give him time and talk to him.
2006-11-04 20:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by andamiddleton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men are interested & some aren't...if he's a young man he's might not be to interested...some just like the lable of being called daddy, it makes them think their grown up. Just be the best mother u can be & give your child lots of love a mother's love is speical.
2006-11-04 20:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by honey1012 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three and he is great with them but men just do not seem to be interested in pregnancy's. Once the baby is born if it doesn;t change( i am sure it will) then worry
2006-11-04 20:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by R C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since you feel he may hit the road and since you don't have papers on him..you ll just have to deal with it..too late for i told you SO .So now listen.go to the welfare office and get a medical card..this will make it easy er when you hit him for child support..do this first..i bet that will but a spark in his ***.
2006-11-04 20:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he'll come around, it may just be shock.
Take care of yourself and that baby.
2006-11-04 20:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋