I mean... do you think more people start the affair so that the marriage will end? what are other reasons for the affair???
2006-11-04 11:52:20 · 22 answers · asked by who me? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because people are bored and neglected by their spouses!
2006-11-04 12:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What happened to you is not surprising. Most people in a 20-year marriage feel they lack excitement. All it takes, just as in your case, is an attractive person, a few drinks and the minimal probability that the spouse would ever find out. But you're playing with fire. It's fairly easy to get away with it once. It's extremely difficult to hide an ongoing affair. Even if you don't see a change in yourself or your behaviour, those close to you will. And remember two things: 1. The grass is always greener. 2. If the co-worker is attached and you and he end up leaving your partners permanently, wouldn't you both always be wondering if the other is cheating? My advice is the same as the other person's above. Find ways of improving your life, including your sex life, within your marriage. You can't imagine how devastating a divorce can be for all involved.
2016-05-21 23:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
affairs start because they don't feel they are appreciated at home, or the relationship has become so strained that they find comfort in companionship. very few when they meet the opposite sex in this situation are looking for someone to hop into bed with at that moment. what they are looking for a is a listening ear that seems to support and understand their feelings at the time. as the trust grows so does their relationship, and things progress from there. couples who are married fall into the trap of feeling they know whats best and start assuming and doing without really considering the other persons needs and wants, communication breaks down as a result because they loose the ability to talk to each other, because they feel that no matter what the other person is not really listening anyway, its at that point they begin to look outside of the marriage for that listening ear, and if its found ninety percent end up having an affair because they really don't think about what they are doing
2006-11-04 14:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a simple question. An affair can start with a simple look,a touch or just a few words, etc. It doesn't have to be because one or the other wants to end a marriage. Maybe they haven't received the attention right or wrong at home they think they deserve.
2006-11-04 12:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by djsanner@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After being married, people are looking for some excitement. Maybe they're bored in the bedroom, or bored with their mundane lives. Whatever it is, there's a certain thrill to having an affair. On the one hand, they want security in their marriages, and they like knowing that whomever they married will have to stick with them. On the other hand, they feel like they haven't really lived until they do something spontaneous and wild. It's not always about ending the marriage or wanting to hurt the other person.
2006-11-04 11:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Dumblydore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people get bored and drift apart and don't make the effort to keep the relationship alive and vivrant. sometimes women are so dumb they don't take the time to find out what is really going on. they dont put the foot down when hubby or wife start staying out all nite and that makes it easier for an affair to start and to grow. and everyone needs to know they are loved but in a way that does not smother them also. A relationship needs a lot of work to keep going just like a pot of beans ya got ta keep warming it up and occasionaly add something to spice it up a little,
2006-11-04 12:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's the disease of more. Cheaters think that they will find some quality in the individual that they aren't getting at home. Affairs never start to end marriages. Affairs start to fulfill sexual deisres, needs, wants etc. They happen when people get greedy and they think they will never get caught. The wife/husband or significant other is never supposed to know.
2006-11-04 12:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by msladykm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that most affairs start when something in the marriage is lacking. They will seek out another person to fill that void. Then there are those few who have no morals and don't consider the vows they take to mean anything.
2006-11-04 12:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by goaliegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simply because they are bored, they have lost interest in the other person. they want to find excitement by having affairs behind the other person's back, it's the THRILL that makes them feel good. it's like going on a 'mission' without trying to get caught. however, it all started, solely because that person is just not that into the other person anymore...if not, why would they do it in the first place?!
2006-11-04 12:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they think they are going to get more than their marriage can offer, both with sex and money. affairs begin out of revenge for something they feel their spouse has done to them. and instead of confronting their spouse and working out the problem, they seek confort in the arms of another. for a time this other is everything to them, meeting all their needs, until the spouse is out of the picture, and than all of that changes, and their true self emerges.and the joke is on the cheater who selfishly left his wife.
2006-11-04 12:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have affairs because something is not right in their relationship.
Men usually do it just for the sex, women mostly stray looking for some affection or attention.
2006-11-04 21:44:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋