He tells everyone that he's going to las vegas on a buisness trip and he comes back the following monday and tell me that he got married to his ex-girlfriend that he had only been dating for 8weeks. Now its not like shes mean or anything but shes very wierd and its like a stranger has moved in.
2006-11-04 11:48:45 · 12 answers · asked by Pam N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-04 11:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pam, you are in a position that so many people are thrown into. It's not that your father has married again, it's the fact that he felt he could not talk to you about this to the extent that he snuck off deceptively to got married. He now has lost your trust. You had no idea why he would do this and will blame anyone involved in this scam. Including his new wife. Someone here needs to be the mature adult. If it can't be your father, and you can't trust his new wife, guess what? It's up to you. Treat them both with love but you don't have to trust until they can show trustworthiness. Use wisdom at every turn Pam. Good luck.
2006-11-04 20:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for being mad at your dad right now He totaly lied to you about siomething very big. You did not even get a chance to come to terms he was going to marry her when off they went and got married!
I have heard of people doing that when thye got drunk..doesnt make it any easier tho. There is not much you can do..You could try to talk to him and tell him it would of been nice to be given a headsup on what he was doing. . But then he might come back and say..i dont have to..not a good situation your in..
Just try to get along with her..no sense makeing a big fight over this..it's not going to change anything if you do. for some reason your dad thought he needed to marry this person...
Just hope your dad will be happy..try to accept what happened..
Some things are totaly out of our control.
2006-11-04 19:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by sticky J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that was REALLY rotten of him to not let you in on the decision before he got married or offer for you to go with them to be part of the wedding. We parents just plain blow it sometimes, not trying to hurt you, just not thinking things all the way through.
Your dad's new wife doesn't have to be "your mom", no one will take her place, but you can tolerate her if she is a good person (the little weird could be considered part of her charm) and also, its a whole lot sweeter if she makes your dad happy.
I don't know your age, but you may not have to put up with it for too many years and if they are good to you, just support them where they are and all of you will live happily ever after.
2006-11-04 19:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. Except my dad was cheating on my mom with his girlfriend. and he went to korea but when he came back he had a new girlfriend and i think they are getting married. So im mad at him to. I would hate my dad too if he didnt even tell me. I mean i would feel jealous that my dad spent more time with his wife than with me. And she practicly is a stranger i mean shes not related to you and you arent very close.
2006-11-04 20:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by trickeyy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father has the right to marry whomever he wants whenever he wants. He obviously has a "history" with this woman since she was an "EX" girlfriend so she was not a stranger to him. Grow up and deal with the fact that you don't get to run your father's life.
2006-11-04 21:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PAM: YOU are NOT allowed to hate your father.You and he will loose very precious time between the two of you and you're own personal life you will never get back.
You ARE allowed to HATE his ACTIONS. Do let him know how you feel about what he has done and that he hurt you're feelings and try to get over it as soon as you can for both of your sakes. Do not hold a grudge. Let it go. Live happy and healthy.
2006-11-04 20:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by Steve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your dad the benefit of the doubt. He deserves to be happy,if his new wife does that for him you should give it a chance. In time you will get used to the arrangement and may come to enjoy it.Good Luck!
2006-11-04 19:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes a grown man what matter does it make to you?? Would you like if he was mad at you for doing the same thing? Give him a chance, he's only human.
2006-11-04 19:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by crackerz_in_bed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how u feel about her and him getting married 2 her, try getting 2 know her after all she might not be as wired as u think
2006-11-04 19:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by hello08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you kinda have to deal with he is grown but you know as long as she doesn't start being mean or anything just kinda go with the flow to keep life easier for now ......doesn't seem like it will last that long anyways...
2006-11-04 19:55:36 · answer #11 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋