i try to date other guys, which i do to make the breakup (four months ago) less painful..but it doesnt work, it just makes me miss him more
whenever i talk to him he tells me he misses our relationship and would want to try to work through things but he isnt at all jealous, or plussed by the fact that i am dating in the meantime.
for example, i am a senior in high school, and i told him i was going to a dance with soem guy, and he was like, oh!! have fun!! be crazy! ... like encouraging me to do things with other guys.
meanwhile he is casually dating as well, and it makes me furiously jealous. i dont think he is seriosuly dating, but it still makes me upset.
(this is a xbf of a year long relationship and he is now away at college which makes things difficult)
anyway, my question is, what do i do to make this easier? or just advice on the situation in general..
sorry this is long and venting but all advice is appreciated!! <3
2006-11-04 11:44:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know this is gonna take alot of guts but call him and tell him how you feel and ask him if he would wanna have a relationship with you again and if he refuses then you need to move even though your emotions towards him doesnt just date occassionally trust me the right guy will come to you, you just have to have patience!
2006-11-04 11:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by latina_lachula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An honest answer is probably nothing really.... I know it sucks to hear this but its the only close to guaranteed answer you can get, and thats time will make it better... I have a similar situation and though theres a part of you that will always miss them, it will get easier over time. Thats not to say you still wont have some "down" days about it, but you will find yourself feeling better about it, getting stronger and not thinking about it nearly as much. Also, if its possible, if you really want to make it "easier" on yourself, try not to have much communication with him anymore, cuz the way you still feel about it, when you do talk to him you are just constantly keeping a wound open where it cant heal. I know its not easy, but just keep strong about it, keep living your life and everything will fall into place. You seem like you have a solid head on your shoulders and that you'd be a really nice girl, so im sure in the end everything is going to be great! Best of luck.
2006-11-04 19:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by Batman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this isn't what you want to hear, but there is a really big jump between high school and college. To college kids it seems that high school kids are "kids." There, I said it.
Sure he misses your relationship, but he has crossed a milestone in his life...high school graduation...and entrance into college. I dont' think it can ever be the same between you two. And, since he is "away at college" you really have no idea how serious (or not) his dating may be.
Try to enjoy your senior year....this is the only one you will have. In fact, he is encouraging you to enjoy it too. Take his advice...have fun! Time to stop hanging onto this; it's over. Get involved in some activities where you will meet new people.
Peace be with you!
2006-11-04 20:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by Annamaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, life sucks when it comes to grieving a relationship. You won't be able to move on as long as you have any expectations of getting back with him. You are hanging on, trying to make him jealous and it isn't working. That alone should tell you that you have to let go. Ask God for help cause really that is all we have. My love died 3 years ago. Even though I haven't gotten involved or even dated yet. I know that someday I will find someone to love again. As far as time, keep yourself busy doing whatever, volunteer if you have to, go to a grief group and counseling. All these things help. REad about moving on, not love stories. If you can keep putting one foot in front of the other time will heal the wounds, but time and God are the true healers.
2006-11-04 19:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i can give some advice but i am really in no shape to do so since i am in the exact same boat you are in. I have dated my ex for 8 months and we broke up, like your ex he says he misses our relationship but doesnt want to try again since we broke up and got back together so many times, but he even says he loves me and misses me still. he has been dating this girl now for like 2 weeks, and we have only been broken up for about a month, and he told me that she broke up with him. So now he is saying he loves me and how we just could never make it work. I still miss him and i have not been dating on the off chance he will want me back. my advice, and its going to be really hard, is just to forget him. im trying to do that with KB and its really hard and he makes it a lot harder when he says he loves me still, but all in all its really the best option.
2006-11-04 19:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by abbyhawaiianlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to hear this, but you should move on. I think by encouraging you to do "fun, crazy" stuff, he's trying to encourage you to move on ans well. Remember the reasons why you broke up, and look forward to meeting new guys.
2006-11-04 20:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by Steph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and you have what they call
puppy love, its not lasting , so realize that,
go out with your girlfriends instead of with other
guys for awhile because it sounds as if you feel
guilty because you are seeing other guys. After
going out with your girlfriends for awhile your
guilt will fade then you can start seeing other
guys with a fresher feeling. None of this because my ex bf sees other girls I need to
see other guys but because of your feelings for
ur ex u feel guilty.You have plenty of years
ahead of you , do not rush life, take it in stride
and you will always come out on top.
2006-11-04 20:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust me it will hurt for a while but time will heal everything i know all you want to do is get back together but life will go on and you will meet mr. right soon enough!!
2006-11-04 20:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
gurlllllll pleaseeee. u should be wayyyyyyy over him. aint no reason why u shouldn't
2006-11-04 19:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by Charnelle aka Nelle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋