do I quit a job I like for my marriage?

Question

ok. I have been on workers comp for 3 years because I injured myself at work .During that last year, I got married. With our marriage came alot of bills that comp did not pay them very well. My wife is disabled so she cannot really work. She did however constanttly push me to start working again. After I got the doc's ok , I tryed out for at least 9 or 10 different jobs. A few weeks went by with no luck of getting a job. I did have 2 interviews but I believe thier backround checks they found out I was an injured worker afraid to take on a guy who collected workers comp. Anyways I did get a job finally after a month with a place I have worked for before with no questions asked because they know my work ethics and apprieciate them. In the mean time, my wife believes I am going back to the past. She does not want me to work at this place because it is in the city I used to have a girlfriend in and a city where I used to drink. The drinking and the gf have no connection with the employer o

The people who work here were always only work related relationships and I have explained this to my wife . She insists I get another job or we are through but I fear I will have a hard time finding or getting anything else because of my predicament. By the way this is the best place for me to work I really love it and it pays better than competing employers.

She wants me to be work in a place that is strictly all men! I have only found 1 job like that and it is a machine shop. I don't have much expierience here but I tried for it anyway

She wants me to be work in a place that is strictly all men! I have only found 1 job like that and it is a machine shop. I don't have much expierience here but I tried for it anyway

Answer 1

Sigh! I'm sorry but your wife is one of the most unreasonable, irrational person I've ever heard about. I read your other question and your wife sounds nuts....not to mention extremely controlling. She wants u to work but now that u got a job she's wanting u to quit because it's associated with your past? What the hell does she want from u?

BTW, keep the job.

Answer 2

You shouldn't quit for your wife's insecurities. This fella I know quit 18 jobs for his wife & she still wasn't satisfied. It didn't just start & end with the job, there were other things she told him he had to stop doing or else they were through. She gave him many an ultimatum before they finally lost their children & he called it quits on their relationship. It would be near impossible to find any job these days that only hired men. Quitting your job isn't the solution, but sitting down & talking with your wife is. She needs to learn to come to some kind of compromise, concidering this job you have now is a good paying job, & it's helping to pay your bills, not to mention they like your work & you are appreciated. I don't know of many jobs where you're really appreicated at. My suggestion is to try & continually reassure her that you took the job for financial reasons & not for any other reason she might come up with.

Answer 3

She needs to get over that it was in the past. If you like the job and it pays your expenses keep it. You are the only one that can work so any job is better than no job and with it being hard for you to get employed do to getting hurt on the job you will just keep on getting the run around if you quit. Make her understand that was then here is now and you need to work in order for her to have a place to live.

Answer 4

tell your wife to smarten up. The fact that you haven't even talked to that girl in how many years, should be the first sure sign that your not going to cheat. Plus, tell her straight out how you want it to be, cause in the end, your wife could go back to work (there are tons of workplaces out there that disabled people can work at such as call centres, recreational centres, you name it I'm pretty sure that I can pick a job position) And really in the end your wife is going to end a whole relationship that you have worked on for years just for one job. PLEASE!!! tell your wife to get some friends. In the end, take the job, prove to your wife that your not going to cheat, and live the happy life, no point in living in regret.

Answer 5

You have bills. You need to work in order to pay those bills. So far this is the only job that you have. I can see where your girlfriend may be concerned, but she needs to look at more pressing issues, like your mounting bills. I think that she needs to have a little more faith in her man so you can do what is necessary for your family. If she doesnt' like your job then tell her to find you one.

Answer 6

No- don't quit the job- do every thing in your power to make your wife feel more secure in the marriage- but it sounds like you need the money and the job.

Answer 7

in case you do no longer desire the greater money then you definately could confer with him approximately jettisoning the 2d pastime. he's on the pc as an get away from paintings and having to socialise with human beings yet sure that's taking a toll on your marriage. communicate this out with him. See in case you could paintings this out at the same time. stable success!

Answer 8

You suppose to be the head and not the tail that is in the bible. Your wife need to trust her husband! Find something for her to do because she seems like she needs something to do to occupy her time! Keep your job! Your wife ain't going no where if she do it want meant to be

Answer 9

No, do not do it keep your job just tell your wife you love her and to not worry things are different now and you won't go back to those days from the past

Answer 10

I'm sorry to tell you this, mate, but your wife sounds like a real demanding *********! If she loved you she would trust you to work in a place where there are women. If you want my opinion, I would tell HER where to go. She's just stringing you along. That's so wrong.
Good luck, mate!