the other woman/man?

Question

has anyone ever left/divorced their mate for the other woman/man. if so did it end in disaster like me or did it work out

i left my wife of 14 yrs for the other woman and now she is 200 times worse than my wife could have ever been

Answer 1

Yes. The man I cheated with and left my man for was a total asshole. The relationship did not work out. I sincerely regret my actions and decision. Remember the grass always looks greener on the other side until you are standing in with no shoes on. Good Luck to you! Think long and hard before you do anything.

Answer 2

I agree with Dr. Who. What goes around comes around. If you are in a relationship - a committed relationship - you should not try and go to someone new. You will have lost the respect of that new person (as you were CHEATING to be with them) and you will have hurt your former mate. I don't know if there's children involved, but that would make it worse. In this situation, no matter what you say you will have hurt the children and the way they look at you.

If you're feeling as though you'd rather be with someone else, leave your current partner right now. Consider others after the old relationship is actually over.

Answer 3

It would never end good because if he left her for you , you are not safe from getting the same treatment. I found mine right after the divorce and know he doesn't want to get married. Go figure. I should have saved the panties like you and may be I would not be in the fifth year of no ring, but I must say the man bought me two homes pays the car note, helps out around the house and still manages to make love like no man has ever.

Answer 4

Some men in affairs get divorced. Of the divorces, probably 90% is because he got caught, and the wife dumped him. Only a small number is because he left to be with the other woman. And of those, only 2% marry the "other woman." I read this in some study.

When I was young, and stupid and single, I saw a guy. I was convinced by him that his marriage was crap, and that they didn't love each other. It was ups and downs with him for years. Finally, I was done, and sick of it, and stopped all contact. The relationship was based on a lie.

I met someone. Someone good. Who treated me good. And our relationship was built on trust. And we got married. Soon after I got married, my sister ran into the married ex. He HAD gotten divorced, because he realized he DIDN'T love his ex-wife. And when my sister told him I was married, I think he nearly died, because he assumed that I had been hanging around waiting for him, and I'd drop everything to be with him. Tough for him.

Answer 5

one christmas eve many years ago, i met my boyfriend at the door and told him to leave, that i was in love with another and he just had to go. after he left i waited on the new guy to come over, as he said he would move in, well that christmas eve was my worst. i waited all night long, and the next day, but no one showed.i was so smug and confident and showed no concern for the man i had so cruely dumpted. as time went by i found myself with someone else, ended up pregnant, it was christmas eve again the next year. was so happy about the baby,and wanted to share it with my boyfriend,when i told him, he wasn't happy, wanted and expressed to me he wanted to live by himself. so as for karma it does indeed come back to you, most often in the same way you dealt it out to the other person. than and only than do you remember what you did to the other person and realiaze how they must have hurt. anyway many years later, and alot smarter, found myself wishing i had a man like the one i had so carelessly pushed away, so i contacted him, and we are now back together and happy, and i have to think what does the heart know anyway, we don't really know what we want at times.we get mixed up with the wrong people listen to the wrong information and find ourselvers in a mess. so what did i know all those years ago,i am convinced the universe gives us what we need, and sees that we end up with the person we are suppose to be with.

Answer 6

Never did nor would inflict that on someone, but was on the receiving end. You know, if you did that to your mate perhaps you are just plain getting all that you deserve. What a horrible thing to do to someone who loved you enough to consider it a forever thing; now you get to be the one wondering if the person you are with is being true, because both of you know how you found each other, CHEATING. You should have had enough courage and heart to set your partner free rather than drag her through the horror you inflicted.

Answer 7

karma, you need to be in a relationship where you treat them right if you expect it to not end in disaster. Of course it wasn't going to work out with the other woman esp if they knew they were the other woman, how could they ever possibly trust you not to do what you did to your wife to them?

Answer 8

Wow so many life experiences and with any intelligent decisons such when there is 3 of hearts people will get hurt, and yes sometimes it does not work out.

My experience somewhat different as we both looked at each other in a new light....

Answer 9

I know a lot of people who have cheated and married the other woman. Of the ones that are still married, I don't know any where they are happy and faithful to each other.

Call it karma or whatever, but doing crappy things to other people will come back on you in one way or another!

Answer 10

see this just shows people that the grass isn`t always greener on the other side,in some cases it does work,but if you went in cheating things are going to always be bad because it was started out on a bad note.