im adopted, as well as im 15 years old. i only no a few things bout my birthmom. i know she: wasnt married, was 5'7, had brown hair. my birthdad: 5'3, athleticly built. i really want to meet them, or just no more bout them. wat should i do?
2006-11-04 11:28:06 · 14 answers · asked by Mckenzie D 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Have a talk with your parents. They will understand and will give they're best support. Dont be afraid to ask.
2006-11-04 12:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by lollipop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You start by discussing this with your adoptive family. It is perfectly normal to want to know about your birth parents. Your adoptive parents will have the start of the trail to find your birth parents either through the agency they worked with or the attorney they used. You should know that in most states you will have to wait until you turn 18 to meet the birth parents (IF they are willing to meet you). My girls met their birth grandmother on the birthday of my oldest girl. They met their mother a few days later (they are half-sisters biologically). They have yet to meet their birth fathers and we do not know their exact location. After meeting their mother in 2003 they have not seen her since as she has not tried to keep in contact with them. They also met 2 other sisters we did not know about. They have one other sister they will probably never meet as her birth father has her and wants nothing to do with the rest of the family.
You need to be aware that these type of situations can end wonderfully and they can also end with some serious pain. I am SURE you know that your adoptive parents ARE your parents. Your biological parents did what they thought, at the time, was the best for you and for that you need to thank them. Nonetheless, you are living with your Mom and Dad. I hope you know that and appreciate the time, love, money, and effort that was spent to assure you that you are the MOST SPECIAL person in their lives.
To find your birth parents, you start with the adoption agency. They contact the birth parents, if they know where they are, and then you start with letters, and maybe a phone call near or on your 18th birthday and then you both decide whether or not you will meet. One word. . . make SURE your adoptive parents go with you when you meet them. You will need that support. It is a very stressful meeting at first.
I pray everything works out as you want.
2006-11-04 19:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you are a minor, this could be a problem if your adopted parents do not agree- they can stop you from meeting them. The best thing to do is to ask them- and then inquire through the agency you were adopted by (if there was one), or hire a private investigator, which could be expensive. If they disagree, you have to wait until you're 18.
good luck
2006-11-04 19:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get registered on the Yahoo adoption board. Get advice, but most of all listen to their stories. There are a lot of positive stories about how adoptees found their birth parents, but there are also stories about adoptees who's birth parents don't want to have anything to do with them for one reason or the other. They feel rejected and find it very difficult to recover from rejection. Give yourself a few years, do some research, but most important talk to your mom and dad. They may want to help you, but if they don't you need to understand why and not be upset. Get some advice from those who have been there. Good luck.
2006-11-04 21:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Girls M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your adopted parents and tell them you want to search for your birtth parents. Hopefully they will be open to the idea, but at any rate you will have to talk to them because they will know if your records are sealed (if you already have info about them then I doubt they've been sealed). You will also need to find out if your adtoption was through an agency or a laywer. Good luck
2006-11-06 00:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask your adopted parent what they know about your birth parents. You could also do research from the adoption agency you were adopted from or the hospital that you were born in.
2006-11-04 19:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by cmsmith114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a classic. I would ask your parents now to help you out with some of your questions like where was I adopted, where was I born, things like that that you can go on. When I found out where I was adopted I would then go and tell them my situation. Just beg them to let you know who put you up for adoption.
Second choice, I would also leave your birthparents alone I mean they put you up for adoption for a reason? right? it is all up to you!
GoOd LuCk!!!
2006-11-04 19:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by Juice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask your adopted parent what they know about your birth parents. You could also do research from the adoption agency you were adopted from or the hospital that you were born in.but most important talk to your adopted parents
2006-11-05 18:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by Linda Lou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tricky one. Do you have any photos? A name? Or the agency your adoptive parents went through?
2006-11-04 19:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by one_sweet_little_thing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask the adoption agency what they can do to help, unless you are to young to find out then don't be affraid to approach your mom or dad though, be strong.
2006-11-04 19:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by angela c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋