My friend Nicole and I have been friends since high school, she is a very friendly girl and as a result of that she has a lot of close friends, I am the opposite, i talk to people but i dont get too chumy with them. I dont have a problem with her having other friends but i told her, not to tell them any thing about my personal life. Yesterday I overheard on the phone discussing my business with her friend, I got mad at her and now she wont even return my calls what should i do?
2006-11-04 11:24:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you should have a heart to heart talk with her. you have every right to get upset with her after all she didn't honour your request. but you could have handled it better.
call her and ask her to meet with you. apologize for reacting the way you did but not for the reason. it was your life she was discussing with her friend and you have every right to choose who knows about it. but don't let your friendship end because of it. if she cares enough she'll understand where your coming from.
good luck!
2006-11-04 11:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by gracie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had a best friend do that to me. There was this guy that I liked at that time, I told her not to say anything about me or my life. But she did anyway because she liked him as well. The poor guy thought that I was stalking him, because she said that I was boy crazy and that I would do anything to go out with him and she knew that I didn't do that stuff. She only did that so she could have him herself. (But it don't matter to me anymore about what happened.) I don't talk to her anymore. She moved to California and got married last December. We were friends for over 10 years. I tried to patch things up but she would not answer my phone calls. Good Luck!! And keep trying!! Don't lose your best friend over something stupid like me!!
2006-11-04 19:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by NATASHA W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are trying to control your friends behavior and she wants none of it. Unless what she was sharing about your business was extremely personal, why does it bother you so much? Friends talk about friends all the time. Since you don't choose to have other friends you probably take it all too seriously. You know she's going to continue talking about you if she even chooses to be your friend so unless you are willing to have her do that, I guess you need to let go of the friendship.
2006-11-04 19:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, if Nicole is really friendly she won't be mad at you for long. Just explain to her you don't like her to talk about your private life! She'll understand. There's nothing like a good friend! Make up!! âº
2006-11-04 19:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it blow over for a few days then ask her to talk about it. Try to explain to her that any information you give her should stay between the two of you. If she disagrees or does it again, then maybe she isnt your friend at all.
2006-11-04 19:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by DARKSHADOE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well next time you call her you should leave a message and tell her exactly how you feel and tell her not to spread your business to her other friends and you should apologize for getting so mad.
2006-11-04 19:32:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well really you should call her and say sorry but you should also tell her that you dont want her telling everybody your personal life and be like plez just do me that one thing. And i mean why is it such a big deal i mean ya somethings she shouldnt tell but maybe she wants to tell about her friends and you should be listening to other peoples conversations cause maybe you havent heard the whole thing
2006-11-04 19:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably did ... she was immature to share your personal things with her other friends ... a true friends would never do that ... i was a lot like you in high school ... i had a "social" friend too until she slept w/ my b/f ... i made other friends who are still my close friends to this day ... i would do the same ... find someone else like you or someone you feel you can trust, you obviously can't trust her.
2006-11-04 19:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realmente a conversação tem o poder de resolver tudo. Esclareça bem o que vc acha sobre isso tudo, e vê o que ela acha disso. Tentem se entender.
Kisses!
2006-11-04 19:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Pop Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had every right to be upset. You asked her not to discuss your business, which was completly understandable, and she did it anyway. She isnt worth it if she does that. I would stop calling her cause obviously she doesnt respect you. If she did it this time, who knows what else she's told?
2006-11-04 19:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by pinkvanz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋