I think he's been cheating on me. I checked his mobile and saw some text messages to this woman, saying he's missing her and asking if she'd like to see him again etc. It doesn't sound like a text that you would send to a friend. What shall i do? I know her mobile number but he hasn't put her real name, he's put a guys first name instead, so i don't know who this woman is. I want to contact this woman and find out who she is, but how shall i go about, without her getting suspicious or letting her know who i am?
2006-11-04 11:04:19 · 16 answers · asked by curiousugar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would write down the number first. Then I would confront my husband. I'd ask him why he is missing "Fred" and asking to see him again....
Then I'd call the number.
Keep a level head and don't do anything without thinking it all through first.
2006-11-04 11:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by Bingo's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is anything like the slag my husband was cheating with, she probably already knows about you and doesn't care. The only good thing about it is they have no respect for these so called women, they only ever use them.Or in my case my husband felt sorry for her ( what a joke eh ) You can only hope that he will come to his senses before there is too much damage done. If l was you l would ring the number make her aware that you know about her, that will certainly put the wind up her, believe me l know all about this sort of thing.If you do nothing she will think she is getting away with it. If you can forgive your husband that is good, but believe me it is a lot harder to forget. I only hope that your husband will come clean about the whole sordid mess ( as mine did ) and you can get rid of his trash and move on. Believe me if you want something bad enough anything is possible. Please don't drive yourself crazy with doubts, find out for sure and act. If he won't confess and you are sure about what is going on, get rid of him. He obviously doesn't deserve your love and trust. I really feel for you as l know exactly what you are going through. Stay strong . I am sure there are a lot of us thinking about you and wishing you well.Good Luck.
2006-11-04 19:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call and pretend this number was on your cell phone, and u thought it was from a good friend you were expecting a call from. atleast you will know if a woman answars, u can almost be sure he is cheating. what does it matter if she know's who u are, or not, he is your husband, and u have a right to know if he is in a relationship with her.personally i would want to know the truth no matter how much it hurt. the sooner u know for sure the sooner u can make a decision based on fact, and decide if u need to move on or not.but really it isn't about the other woman, not really, when it happened to me i was filled with hatred for her,blamed her for stealing my husband, wanted to slap her. but 3 years later and after getting a divorce and moving on, i have come to the conclusion that he had a choice, he could have walked away, but chose this path. it is between you and your husband. a heart that's broken does not mend easily,because of too many unresolved issues, first u have to be clear in your mind, that he is indeed cheating, and u seem to think he is due to information you can't deny. i would call her, confirm it, don't threaten or yell at her cause it will just bring them closer together. once u can confirm it in your mind, u need to decide if it is something u can deal with. depends alot on his response and his ability to be accountable for the hurt he is causing you.
2006-11-04 19:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would actually talk to your man first. Don't let him lie about it either. We all know he is cheating. The other woman may not even know you exist so don't put her in the middle of it.
2006-11-04 19:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by miyazaki75 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why contact her, you need to confront your man about ...he is the one cheating, for all you know she doesn't even know about you...Call it from a payphone and see if a girl answers then pretend to have the wrong number......confront him and tell him you know it's a womans number cause you already called it
2006-11-04 19:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does he need to do, hit you in the head with that cell phone? Of course he's cheating on you. The only thing you can do, is pretend you don't know long enough to plot your revenge. As far as contacting her...use his cell phone and let her know exactly who you are and that you know where she lives, that will keep her awake nights.
2006-11-04 19:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by angelofdreams19881 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a good friend to contact her, then she won't know who you are. Have you confronted your husband?? it may be just some flirting with a female friend. Don't poison your mind, get to the facts ASAP
2006-11-04 19:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by graeme1944 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell this lady that you are married and want to know who she is why do you care how she feels she is the one cheating on your man so talk to her and go from there
HUGS
2006-11-04 19:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has an office job, call and make a lunch appointment for him under the guise of an assistant, and ask if she has any messages for him.
2006-11-04 19:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you found on his phone. If he gets overly defensive I would wonder further, if he has a rational excuse let it go. Even if he is defensive I would not accuse him until you have more hard evidence. You will ruin your marriage if you accuse him and are wrong.
2006-11-04 19:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by Parrot Bay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋