I had a discussion at work with about 20 or so men and we wanted to know why women think we should be faithful if you make no attempt to fulfill us sexually. We put it to a vote and we decided that our wives can tl us how much they would like us to be faithful by the actions they take sexually. If we were as woefully pathetic with our income as you are with sex, you would leave us!
2006-11-04 10:51:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop already with the 'meet your wifes needs'. We are talking about the guys WHO DO all of that and don't ask for porn or pain. WE want you women to be 50% of our sexual relationship. I clean more than my wife... I take care of her 10 to 1 more than she does me... so stop it!!! besides, if we have to meet your needs BEFORE we get good sex, then meet our needs BEFORE we provide... why can't you just meet our needs... why trick us into believing you care when all you want is someone to meet your needs. Likeyou give a **** about meeting ours. If we have to beg... and you give in... no need has been met. If I clean and cook and provide (which I do all the time) then I should expect something back. I am fit, good looking and sexually attentive, emotionally attentive and have given a lot more than she has. So what then... I can't meet her needs any more than I do...
2006-11-05 00:16:59 · update #1
Excellent question. And to all the doubting ladies in the answers above, this husband gets his wife surprise flowers. Splits the chores at least 50-50 (ha - she doesn't do any yardwork, but I do about a fourth of the laundry, more than half the cooking, and at least half the cleaning). I tell her how beautiful and sexy she is (and she *is*!) Spend time talking to her (when our 3 kids aren't in the way!) and basically everything everyone says I should be doing. We've talked about our sexual desires and it's quite clear that my sexual satisfaction is last on her list of priorities. What she considers good sex is merely adequate "duty" sex to me. I won't complain too much, but it seems like I'm "owed" more than 10 minutes of sex once a week... Not contemplating an affair, but can totally understand where this guy's question is coming from.
2006-11-04 17:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by tex37curious 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What a pathetic thing to say. How dare you compare us to your income. If you asked this question to get a good response, well here it comes. What makes you guys who voted on this experts anyway. Perhaps if some of you were better in the sack us women would be more co operative when it comes to sex. These guys who voted probably wouldn't know how to please a woman so how dare they say it's our fault. You obviously don't have a lot of work to do if you have time for these pathetic discussions. Why don't you all go home and ask your wives what they think about it, oh no you probably wouldn't have the balls..... Would you !!!! I am glad that not all men are as pathetic as you, just think what a sore, sorry world we would live in if they were. Grow up. Get a life.
2006-11-04 19:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
First of all, more than likely the reason you aren't getting everything you want sexually is because you aren't giving her everything she wants emotionally. If my husband is good to me, then I want nothing more than to please him. Men can't seem to understand the concept that women need emotional support and affection just as much as men need physical sex. That is how we were created and nobody can change that. If a woman is unhappy in the marriage, then if is very difficult to give herself to her husband. So, maybe instead of thinking about the easy way out, you should ask your wife if you are doing something wrong and if you are--try to correct it. However, if what you are asking her to do goes against her morals or beliefs, then please try to consider that if she does it, how it will make her feel--that is if you care. Try helping her out around the house. I'm sure she would really appreciate that and want to reward you in some way--hint hint. Remember, how would you feel if she went to another man to get the love and affection that she needs? NOTHING JUSTIFIES CHEATING ON YOUR SPOUSE!! If you are really that unhappy and there is no way to correct the problems, then get a divorce. Just that simple.
2006-11-04 19:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa G 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are correct on that one! I think both sides have to put in the effort in every aspect of a marriage. I try and surprises my husband with a "night of sin" at least once a month. It doesn't have to be some long drawn out event, just something to show him that I want him. It works, or sex life is better now than when we were dating.
2006-11-04 18:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by kcastillo1220 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, most men see so much pron and think that is what is a "Normal" sex life is all about. So they go to there wife's and expect them to do that stuff and when the wife says no they get mad because they feel we are not "fulfilling our men". So if you men can give up pron and slu*y women and see sex for what it really is then maybe you will get fulfilled more. You are a jerk for ever thinking about being unfaithful to your wife. I don't care how bad your sex life is, its no reason to cheat. Men don't cheat....BOYS chat! Men don't think about cheating, BOYS think about cheating. So are you a man or a boy? I would say from your post your a boy. If you where not happy with your sex life then you are stupid for getting married in the first place. All I can say is I'm happy your not my husband!
2006-11-04 19:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by dohm84 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Probably because, they don't know they aren't fulfilling the sexual desires of their husbands. Make suggestions to them about what you guys want them to do to fulfill your desires.
2006-11-04 19:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by msladykm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love and marriage is a two way road and sex is the frosting on the cake.
2006-11-04 18:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by tortuga 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well... you are missing something there... in order for a woman to fulfill you sexually.. you actually have to let her know what you want..Some woman ( not all) are afraid of doing somethings for fear that you will think she is whorish (for the lack of a better term) You have to have an open converation or in bed whisper what you want..
Communication is the key...trust me..
2006-11-05 00:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U have a point, however...what about the men whose wives give them what they want when they want it and still go out and cheat? Answer me that.
2006-11-04 19:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a very good observation on your behalf. I have often wondered that myself. The good news is that not all women are like that. I finally found a fantastic lady...of course we were both in our late 40's when it happened.
I would suggest that you keep looking.
2006-11-04 19:06:07 · answer #10 · answered by Joe 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋