I have a nice girlfriend and our relationship is great, well other than just this one issue. Before I got her, she was single for almost 3 years after she broke up with her ex-boyfriend (well, she had 2 other boyfriends during the time, but she said both was a "mistake" and only lasts like 1-2 months each) . But she is still being a "best friend" for him until now. They didn't do much together, only like occasional calling and e-mailing, and the guy lives in another state. But the problem is they still call each other honey, baby doll, and the likes and they always end their conversation or email with "kisses" or something like that.
I was objecting a lot of times but she always argued that it is just something that they always do all the time and didn't mean anything, just habit.
Am I overreacting?
2006-11-04 09:44:43 · 7 answers · asked by Whatta 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ask her how would she feel if the shoe was on the other foot..& It was you talking to your last GF....THAT WAY ....TY
2006-11-04 09:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by pitterpatter47 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to feel the way you do. He's past, you're present. She needs to accept that. And what you say she is doing it a little to lovey-dovey for even me. I'm friends with my ex-wife, and we chat every once in awhile on MSN or Yahoo, but other that that we are not "best friends". And we certainly don't sign-off with "kisses" or call each other pet names.
In my opinion your girlfriend has to respect your feelings if this makes you uncomfortable. That is what a relationship is all about. If it doesn't work for either of you, than it doesn't work for both of you. If she can't, than she values her relationship with her ex more than she values her relationship with you.
2006-11-04 09:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine that they're friends, that wouldn't freak me out at all. But I do think you're right with the terms of endearment, that would make me mad. Calling each other names like that and doing the "kisses" stuff blurs the lines of friendship. I don't think you're overreacting.
2006-11-04 09:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by Tigerlillie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, if they're still using "terms of endearment" with each other then they are not ready to break it off with each other yet. It's fine for females to have male friends and vice versa, but in your case if she was really committed to you she would agree to stop the 'honey' stuff. Just my opinion..and good luck!
2006-11-04 09:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by DragonLady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not overreacting. She needs to drop the "kisses" and anything else that is keeping her close to him. If you have expressed your feelings to her and she doesn't stop, she is being disrespectful of you and your feelings. If she doesn't stop, drop her. It will only get worse.
2006-11-04 09:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ceci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally think you ARE overreacting a little because he is in another state. however, if and when he descides to travel to your state or vice versa with her, you MUST be alert & overreact! but for now, take a chill pill!
2006-11-04 09:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by jessiereyes2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You r definately over reacting.
2006-11-04 11:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋