I know I know....I am a dumb *** for letting this affair continue. He now uses what I have always said,,,,He wants me to be happy. Then why in the heck does he keep calling me? And why do I keep answering the phone.....I can not let him go......??????? Every time we talk I wind up crying, because he tells me how he cares for me and apologizes in saying that he cannot give me what I want today. I then say just let it go because we will never be together...then he says never say never that is a long time.
2006-11-04 09:43:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to stop answering the phone or better yet get your number changed. Don't give the new number to him.
I don't understand why people get involved with married people anyway. 9 times out of 10 they are just lookin for sex. Not commitment. They already have that at home. They just want someone they can have some fun with once in a while and not have to answer too.
That is why they cheat. He can feed you some lines about loving you and divorcing his wife and how he wants to make you happy but it isn't possible right now. You tell him maybe we should end it and in return he is telling you never say never so that you will continue to be his play thing on the side.
Get real honey. He has no intention of making you his permanent girl. He is feeding you alot of crap. He is telling you what you want to hear so that you don't wisen up and dump him.
Eventually he'll either get caught or end it with you permanently and find a new girl. Especially if he thinks you are starting to get to attached. I can assure you that he is just lookin for a little fun. He wants to have his cake and eat it too.
And what makes you think that if this guy gets divorced he'll be honest to you???????????????
Chances are if he does get divorced and get with you then eventually he'll get bored and do you the same way he's doing his wife now!!!!!!!!!!!!
Married men who cheat are looking for someone to have a little fun with. They don't want the full realtionship thing they already have it at home.
And chances are you are doing things sexually with him that his wife may or may not be doing at home.
He may care for you but not enough to throw away what he has built with his wife. Think of all that he has to loose if he were to confess and divorce his wife?
He's home,vehicles,kids,child support,etc. The list could go on and on.
Wisen up and dump him. You don't want to be his sloppy seconds do you?
Don't you think that you are better than that and that you deserve someone who will love and respect you and give you there full attention and commitment?
Stop living for him and live for your self. There is some one out there right for you and you will never meet them if you keep your affair up with this guy. You are letting him drag you down.
How do you know that this guys wife might not be crazy. What happens if she finds out about you? How do you know that this lady won't make your life hell on wheels once she finds out?
Think long and hard about the consequences that you will have if you keep up with this affair.
End it now and find you a single available man with no ties or consequences.
You deserve better then what you got. You may love this guy but trust me there is a better one out there for you and you will see that this guy here was really only lust when you find your true love.
Please be smart and end it now before your life ends up in hell.
2006-11-04 10:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by rockn75 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What? It's never going to end if you don't end it yourself. I am going through a similiair situation but I stopped answering the phone a couple of days ago. First, I thought it was going to be the end of me and I kept reaching to the phone and attempting to answer it. But then, I realized and I think about all the times he lied to me and made me cry and made me wait. Your stronger than you'll ever know. So next time, pick up that phone and don't let him speak.... let out your emotions and then hang up the phone and never answer it again. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-11-04 17:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by valerie m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so tired of hearing about these roller coasters everyone is on. He is in indecisive weasel, and he's trying to keep you on his string. Stop answering his calls, and if you are crazy enough to answer the phone tell him you accept the fact that his limitations prevent him from being there for you, and you are letting him off the hook. Let him go back to his wife, or whatever is waiting for him, and move on!
2006-11-04 20:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur a dumbass
2006-11-04 17:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋