that his best friend is flirting with me? i also thought maybe i could scare this guy by saying i was going to tell my husband and just hope it stops. what should i do? tell the husband or just threaten the guy with the thought of telling him?
2006-11-04 09:24:34 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow , i don't think i would come between best friends. so i think i would try an scare the guy off and just tell him that you are going to tell your man! then if it doesn't stop , tell your husband!
2006-11-04 09:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your husband right away. If you don't, and your husband finds out, he could lose trust in you. YOU are suppose to be your husbands "best friend". There should be enough trust and love between the two of you for you to feel comfortable telling him anything. If you try to scare the guy by telling him that you are going to tell your husband, he could reverse it on you and go tell your husband that you are flirting with him. Then when you try to explain that it was him coming on to you, it is going to sound like you are lying and trying to cover up for something you did. And then your husband is going to want to know why you didn't tell him already if it was him coming on to you. He will say you are keeping secrets and he will start to question your faithfulness. This could start a chain reaction that you won't like.. Just please do the right thing and tell your husband.. Good luck..
2006-11-04 09:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by ami mena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to flirt. If you do not encourage him, he will stop.
You can do several things to stop this behavior.
1. Do not spend time alone with him.
2. Do not laugh at his jokes
3. Never play any games with him alone
4. Do not offer him anything (drinks, snacks, etc.). Let your husband do it.
5. If he calls you when your husband is not there, just tell him that your husband is not here, and he will call you back.
Over all, be indifferent to him until he behaves
2006-11-04 09:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by ben c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, this man must not value his friendship with your husband. In my own opinion, I would suggest telling hubby. If you truly love your husband and value your marriage and relationship, I would tell him! Don't feel bad about it, or what might happen when your husband confronts him, because he gets what he deserves. You are his best friends wife!!! Let's put it this way, If a woman or your best friend was flirting with your husband, how would you feel? How would you feel if he didn't tell you?
2006-11-04 09:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy first and mention the next step would be you going to your husband... there is no need in getting a big deal going unless you have to... if this guy continues tell your husnband... this is his best friend and it could be harmless... you gave no details on the extent of the flirting... so going on this... give the guy fair warning and tell him that you are no comfortable...
hope this helps...
2006-11-04 09:29:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
make sure you have sent all the signals to your hubby's friends that you do not appreciate this. Make sure you have not replied in smiles to him..or anything. Flirting is natural..but if one carries on, giving the other the impression it is appreciated it becomes more. Because he is your hubby's best friend, there are alot of sensitve issues with this,. Or laugh it off loudly one time when he does it again. Say something,ike..you should know your best friedn doesnt like to share !..make a point of saying something like that in front of your hubby if you can...If this guy contiunes..then yes..talk to your husband. maybe the guy has always been a player and has'nt realy given the thought that he is playing with his best bud's girl.
2006-11-04 09:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell him about it. If you wait to long by then everything could get so twisted up that you may end up alone for no reason. Even if nothing actually went on, a lot of people believe what they hear, all it takes is just one rumor. If you wait to long to tell your husband and he finds out later by you or someone else, he may not trust you as much anymore.
2006-11-04 15:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him yourself that you're uncomfortable with his advances! You're a big girl! And tell him that you are going to let your husband know exactly what kind of a "friend" he is if he won't stop.
Make sure that you are not alone with this guy. It can't happen if you're not alone with him, so how is that figuring in?
If he doesn't lay off after you read him the riot act, go ahead and tell your husband. But try to handle it yourself first.
2006-11-04 09:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by sparticle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband in a "lighthearted" way. Let him decide if this is something he should break the guys nose on.
If you have told him to stop, and he continues, and it bothers you and your not encouraging it, tell your husband in a matter of fact way,like, I have told him to stop but he won't, please take care of this for me.
Some men are really stupid, you know if your husband will blame him or you. I would not keep it a secret, as this makes you seem to be enjoying the attention.
2006-11-04 09:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Hatem 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your husband what a jerk his friend is. A true friend would not mess with his buddy's wife. I think your husband has a right to know, and it will be interesting how he handles it. I told my husband that his buddy ask me very personal sexual questions, and believe it or not, they're still buddies. Of course because of my request, this friend is not welcome in our home. If my husband told me my girlfriend asked him something like that, I would never speak to her again. I feel bad for him that he doesn't have better friends, but it must not bother him. Good luck!
2006-11-04 09:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by jrw3571 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋