It is to long to get into here. I basically had an affair for 3 mnths a year ago. We have made it this far. If anyone would care to talk to me feel free and ill do my best to fill you in. I really need some help here peeps please!
2006-11-04 09:08:26 · 7 answers · asked by eyeneeder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ouch. I'm a wife who's husband has had an affair. To be honest, it has taken a great deal of time for me to move on emotionally. If you're sorry, you have to say so from your heart, often. Then live trustworthily (sp?). If you're going out after work or class, call and let her know. Basically, by letting her know what you are doing you take away the opportunity for her to go to the thought that you're out having another affair. And then make sure that you remind her every day how happy you are that she chose to stay with you. It takes time so be patient. Good luck. It can work out, it has for us, and I hope it works out for ya'll too.
2006-11-04 09:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is certainly going to take a lot of doing and a lot of work in order to gain your wife's trust and respect back. You two may need to get some professional marriage counseling. If not then a nice vacation away from the house might be another suggestion. Communicate with your wife honestly and let her know your reasons why you made this terrible mistake that has hurt her so. Beg for her forgiveness and let her know that you realize this isn't going to come overnight. Do something unexpected for your wife that she would really appreciate. Most importantly do not blame your wife at all for your infidelity as this will only make matters worse. Best of luck to you and your wife.
2006-11-04 17:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe your lucky enough that your wife didn't kick you out.
I also know that time is the only thing that will bring back trust as the saying goes actions speak louder then words your wife is going to take some time to deal with the pain that you have put her through and she deserves all the time she needs remember she may also be testing you to see if you will cheat on her again.
It appears your wife is compassionate and smart if you want to keep yourself away from temptation then stay away from things that may bring it out in you one more thing your hand will probably be all you get most of the time trust is huge and sorry but you blew it big!
2006-11-04 17:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing the details of your situation, the best advice I can tell you is to be honest with your wife and show her you truly love her. Admit your mistake and tell her it made you realize how you feel and how much you love her. Do be prepared to lose her though. You did violate her trust which is the foundation of any relationship. Just hope she loves you enough to give you another chance
2006-11-04 17:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by Chaga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my parents went through the same thing, and its one of the hardest things ever. trust is one of the hardest things to gain back once you lose it. but the thing here is that you both need to be there for eachother...people dont cheat because its fun, they are missing something in their relationship and look for it elsewhere...no i dont agree with cheating what so ever..but i was forced to look at it from all sides. if you want the marriage to work your going to have to continue to be patient and try your hardest to gain the trust back, and as for your wife she is going to have to try and understand where you come from as well...she needs to understand that you are trying. you should both sit down and have a one on one conversation...tell her how you feel, then have her tell you how she feels. dont argue...just listen to eachother. i know this is hard, and i hope everything works out, but no more cheating! good luck!!
2006-11-04 17:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by kmac41586 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may never restore trust levels to what they were, so you have to do the best every day, day in and day out, to the level she wants to see from you
2006-11-04 17:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're lucky she's giving you a chance....the only thing you can do is take the time....and acept her mistrust...thats what you created. if you really love her...give her the time she needs to forgive, and don't make the mistake again.
2006-11-04 17:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Pezzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋