My exes parents connected themselves to the case between my ex and I. My ex wanted visitation and they decided they needed to get involved which made me really mad because I don't feel it was their right but the court made it their right. I have never kept them from their grandchildren. It was just underhanded. Anyway, Grandpa is 83 and Grandma is in her 60's. I told the jugde that I did not want the grandparents to be allowed to drive my children on curvy or hilly highways because I felt they were too old and their reflexes would let them down. I am a mother, concerned for her children. Well, the judge was old himself so I think he made it personal when he told me they were perfectly fine to drive MY children and I had no choice but to allow it. Since court my ex husband has gone back to prison for credit card fraud, burglary, drugs, and parol violations. The Grandparents have been in two car accidents since and they were only months within each other and close to our last court date.
2006-11-04 09:06:37 · 7 answers · asked by Jules 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first accident they had was over the summer while my son was visiting. Turns out my son was in the car and they failed to mention any of it. My son just recently told me about it. As far as I know, Grandpa was driving for both accidents. If I bring this subject up and try to tell them again that I don't feel safe with them driving my children another war will start. I don't want to fight with these people. I'm tired of fighting. I just want to protect my children. I do want the grandparents in their lives. I feel I need to take this back to court so I can get their driving rights where my kids are concerned taken away. They have never respected any of my decisions. It would have to be leagal. I just don't know what to do. Wh at if I can't prove they were in two accidents since court. How would I get my hands on that type of information?
2006-11-04 09:10:20 · update #1
The judge told me himself that if he wasn't allowed to drive his Granchildren around it would really bother him. Doesn't that sound like he made the decision based on his own personal feelings and not on what is best for MY children?
2006-11-04 09:12:29 · update #2
I live in a different state already. I am remarried. It has been a long time since I was with my ex. We have a good life where we are. I just need to know how to deal with the situation at hand without the fight.
2006-11-04 09:14:53 · update #3
I have never kept my children from their father. I don't believe in using children to hurt the other parent. It is the children that get hurt. That is not the situation here so please don't comment on that. I am not asking about the father.
2006-11-04 09:16:52 · update #4
You know what, screw whoever says I'm selfish or one sided. I have already said I want these people in my childrens life. I have the right to be concerned about their driving. They wrecked with my child in the car! They kept it a secret from me! How am I selfish for wanting to protect my children but at the same time have their grandparents in their life? I want what is best for everyone and I don't want to fight with them. Anyone that calls me selfish, one sided, or disrespectful is small minded and ignorant. What you have to say doesn't interest me but if you must comment go ahead. I know I am a good mother. I feel sorry for you for being so unhappy that you have to insult me to feel bigger. Take care.
2006-11-04 09:45:47 · update #5
Well, if I were you I would seriously concider finding a job in a far away state and moving. Your ex sounds like a slimeball and Grandma and Grandpa sorry to say sound like they cannot drive. Then if they want to visit you can meet them halfway and go to dinner or something. Good Luck, and make sure your child knows to wear their seatbelt at all times. I think that you can go to the Police Department and for a fee get the copy of the accident report since it partains to a court case. They are public record.
2006-11-04 09:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Court judge - Judge by the law only.If the driver's license is valid for your Grandpa and having a good visibility at the age of 83.You should bring all the evidence of accidents and a police report How much they are fined or remain in Jail and produce to Judge.if your Ex husband has violated parole violations than he must be in Jail.So all of them now out from your life.You are one sided ( selfish); respect your Grandpa and Grand Ma.They don't have anything concerned with their son nor with you,they are concerned about Grand children only.That's the age when Gran children loves their Grandparents.
2006-11-04 09:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by precede2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IThe judge certainly out of his mind. There is no way anybody can give you any advice since the judge is giving his ruling in this case.But your ex and his parents are certainly bad influence on your children?id you an attorney to deal with the Judge? Obviously your sides has not been adequately represented like ssshowing to the judges that your ex's are nuts and lack adequate character for children.
2006-11-04 09:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to get another lawyer to start with. then have the case transfured to another court citing predijuce on behalf of the judge. you have to prove that the grandparents are that dangerous. have someone follow them, video tape them. get evidence that supports your claims... if it is possible take the children to there place, then pick them up. if you have to move out of that courts jurisdiction, then refile a petition with that court, citing the evidence you have. please be careful, this could end up being very dangerous, for both you and ur children. make it clear that you are not trying to keep the kids from them, its just there ages, and driving that your concerned with. good luck.
2006-11-04 09:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by hystericaly_kinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats ridiculous, first of all you did the right thing to divorce him and get your children away from him! its not fair for the judge to take it personally...id say take it back to court and express your concern about what happened with the last judge! good luck! :(
2006-11-04 09:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by kmac41586 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the kid growing up its good and helpful to know as much of your family as possible but you should be careful to avoid accidents like you describe but keep the ties without aggravation if at all possible - Sometimes you will have to swallow pride but others may have to swallow too. My ex won't let me see my son and it rips me apart. The only member of family he sees is his mother, her mother and grandmother no-one else is allowed - Please don't do that
2006-11-04 09:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
set another court date. make sure you get a different judge.
2006-11-04 09:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by L♥veee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋