he works 40 plus hours a week as skilled trades.
on the weekends for months now , he has worked as self employed contractor.
we have not been able to do anything together for months now! i am so sick an tired of his working! we have not been out or even out for dinner in months! how can i get through to him , that we do need the time together. i need the time out of this house away from the routine of cooking , cleaning , laundry ect.... it's not like we are desperate for the money , he is just a work acholic! and i am so tired of it!
2006-11-04 08:51:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him enough is enough! you need time for the two of you! hope he listens! it is hard to get through to a workacholic! good luck!
2006-11-04 08:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
Why not just tell your man to meet you after work one day at a family type of restaurant where blue collar attire would be acceptable. This would allow you the opportunity to get out of the house and away from your regular routine as well as afford you both the time to be able to converse with each other over a meal outside the house. Being addicted to work can be very dangerous on relationships and you need to inform your man of how it makes you feel and of all the feelings that you have bottled up inside.
2006-11-04 08:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as he isn't working to keep the family bills paid you should be able to sit down and talk to him about what is going on. Maybe you can suggest a date night - see what he says and let the discussion go from there?
Maybe you could offer to get a part time job during the week- so he could quit his weekend work and you could spend your weekends together?
Maybe your nagging him and he just wants to stay away more?
Could he be having an affair?
Its so hard to look into someone elses relationship without more detail and give an opinion- so I looked at all the possibilities- not saying anything negative.
Good luck
2006-11-04 08:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him what you just told us.
Be honest with him. Tell him exactly what you are feeling and how it is making you feel toward him.
Tell him how much you love him but tell him you can't take him working all the time. Tell him you are lonely and tired. And that he is never around and you are sick of it.
You are already doing everything without him anyway and the only thing he is doing is providing a paycheck every week. Not that that isn't important.
Tell him money isn't everything. Money is nice to have but how can he or you enjoy life and spending some of that money if he works all the time.
He works hard to earn it shouldn't he be able to sit back once in a while and see what he has accomplished with it and enjoy life.
Tell him life is to short to work all the time. You gotta enjoy life to fully live life.
If none of this works then threaten to divorce him.
I know this may sound harsh but you need to live life a little your self.
Tell him you would rather do it with him then without him, but if he can't then you are moving on.
Honestly life is to short. You need to start living. If he can't then you go do it.
Do you have your own vehicle? If so hire a sitter and go out with some friends. Don't let him hold you back.
If you start going out by your self he'll notice!!!
This may get him thinking.
Go out get a make over and show him what he is missing out on!!!!!
If none of this fases him then you should strongly consider a divorce. Because that means he is never gonna change and his job will always come first in his life.
You don't want that. There is so much in life to enjoy and you want someone who is willing to experience that with you.
If you can't get through to him and you continue down this road with him you'll continue to be how you are right now. And it will only get worse.
Break that cycle now. Put your foot down. Show him you mean business.
Tell him everything and how it is making you feel. If he really truly loves you then he'll listen and understand. And he will tryin change. If he doesn't then he loves money more then you. And you don't need him.
You deserve better out of life. Money is nice but it can't buy you everything or give you everything that you are longing for emotionally. Only you can do that.
I would rather be poor and in true love then rich and misreble without true love.
All the richest people in the world aren't truly happy if they don't have true love or someone they truly love to spend time with.
Sure then can get anyone they want because of there money but they will never get true love if they let there money guide the way in there decision.
I hope that things turn out the way that you want them too!!!!
Good Luck
2006-11-04 09:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by rockn75 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to think of it as getting set for a wonderful retirement. Spend some time researching how to invest the extra money that you aren't desperate for right now. The way this world is going, the day may come when you could need it badly. Discuss the situation with him and try making an appointment for his time or make it a date. Either could be very romantic. Try to be patient, he will likely get very tired himself and take some time off.
2006-11-04 09:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by Donna O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are happy just spinning their wheels, running in place, making money. Admittedly, he is a hard working man and probably is quite good with his hands.
Convince him, show him, working hard is not bad, and so is working smart. He should review his routine to identify time cutting or efficiency measure and spend time saved with you. As they say, there is more than one way to skin a cat.
All work and no play will make both of you dumb... so they say.
2006-11-04 09:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by McDreamy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man has a problem. He definitely needs to put things into perspective. His being a workaholic is not good for your relationship, him, or you. Lots of men feel that raking in all of the work- and money- that they can is the best way to support a family and/or significant other- and they don't even stop and consider the emotional part. The fact is, he may literally think he is doing the right thing for you. Sit him down and tell him the real deal about how you feel. If he still won't let it sink in, it's time for counseling.
2006-11-04 09:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Be thankful that he works and isn't a lazy bum. You need to have a life of your own. Go out with your female friends once a week. Eat dinner and go to a movie. Get involved with clubs or a church group. Maybe your husband will wake up and see what he's missing. Don't depend on him for your entertainment.
2006-11-04 08:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people are work echoic and that will never change. My ex boyfriend is a work echoic. I didn't get to see him but twice a week. We didn't live together either. He would go to work on his day off. I had to end the relationship. I need more time then what he was giving.
2006-11-04 08:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by kira 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I go out with my friends also so I don't just depend on him. Find ways to enjoy life. find a good support group. Go watch a movie with your friends. You cannot change others, just yourself. Atleast he works and is making good money. Tell him that you bought tickets to a movie Friday night. I went to see Borat with my husband and boys after ages. Rent a movie and bring home take out dinner.
2006-11-04 09:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by observer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think - if you're with some bum right now - what is your question!
Just tell him the truth - I'm little tired and we have to make little up in our life - make plans to go out before he gets home - is everything perfect between you but you must speak up to him with nice polite way what you want.
2006-11-04 08:57:49 · answer #11 · answered by Toto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋