me and my boyfriend are living together for 8 years and he feel that we don't have to get married because we have a commitments. Which is paying bill, we don't have kids and i feel like is time to go are separate way
can some one help Please
2006-11-04 08:46:55 · 12 answers · asked by isa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Commitment means a whole lot more just sharing a home & paying bills together. That's what you do with a roommate.
If you are not happy you need to get out. It sounds like you want to get married & have a family & he doesn't. If he hasn't wanted to marry you in the last 8 years he's probably never going to.
2006-11-04 08:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well after living together for 8 years I'd have thought that you would be committed to one and other. What a fool I must be. As far as paying bills together that certainly doesn't sound like any type of relationship that I'd want to be involved in. Relationships are a lot more than that.
2006-11-04 08:52:11 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess that's his viewpoint. Clearly you feel that you already have commitments! Don't you already pay the bills? haha :) Unfortunately, it's causing him to not want to marry you, which is upsetting you. And I understand. So there are two ways this could go. If the two of you keep talking about it in a nonjudgmental, loving and open way, he may come to realize that marrying you is not about the introduction of responsibility; that it's loving you in a very high form of EMOTIONAL commitment. Or...he may never understand and you can either stay with him knowing you will never marry or decide to move on.
2006-11-04 08:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance is not laid back, he is smart. Men who refuse to grow up and be responsible are often attracted to a female who has qualities of a care taker, he looks for a mother in the women he picks because he likes the idea of being taken care of. This is unfortunate as most men aim to be the providers and caretakers of the relationship or at least are willing to share 50% of the responsibilities. I am afraid the relationship you have with your fiance is doomed for failure as eventually you will grow to resent his so called laid back attitude. Trust me, he is not so laid back as you think he is, he has learned how to use the love and understanding and caring of a woman to his benefit and so far he has succeeded. You need a man who is willing to work side by side with you towards accomplishing dreams and goals you share together. Otherwise just adopt your fiance because sooner or later if you marry him you will find you did not gain a husband, you gained a son. Don't do this!
2016-05-21 23:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although a financial commitment is part of a relationship it is not the most important one. Marriage is a commitment in itself. It is a commitment of the heart, mind, body, and soul. If your boyfriend only wants a financial commitment...it is time to move on... Don't you deserve more than that?
2006-11-04 08:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by whenpigzfly2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is faithful to you, then he is committed to you. If you feel like it's time to end it, then follow your heart.
2006-11-04 08:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they have never been in a true committed relationship
2006-11-04 08:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by scottb03gt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats kind of dumb maybe he's just scared to get married and thinks hat he cant support you in the way you want.talk to him. dont break up.
2006-11-04 08:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by turtle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are free to go. Singles life is very interesting - new opportunity.
2006-11-04 08:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go,and as fast as you can.
2006-11-04 08:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by George K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋