or hurt our already so so marriage. We have been married for 4 months i am 18 and he is 24 .We dated for 6 months met when i was 17 we met sneaking into a NYC club.He is only the second guy i ever dated so i have no experience with how guys think.His job is promotion for a record company he hopes to become a producer soon was offered a job in houston. The traveling and him always being at clubs puts a stain on our relationship. Plus i am a freshmen in college at NYU taking 16 credits. I hope that if i major in same thing my hubby did i can work with him?and spend more time with him or relate better/understand the industry?
2006-11-04 08:43:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont work right now so he is calling the shot and i want to prove i am mature.
2006-11-04 08:45:15 · update #1
Promoter for a Record company....
EEEK I know your lot all to well.
I'll try not to let that influence my next statement.
Don't do it. It doesn't work out.
Keep that part of your lives separate. You need it.
Besides talent jerks like me could get you both fired in a heartbeat.
You need a stable income. Record Promotion is not!
BTW: I'm not a jerk. Just passionate about my work. When I get angry heads will roll. I had a lot of Producers and Promoters over the years none for very long. I'm retired now with my pretty horses. No longer a threat. But there are lots like me out there.
2006-11-04 08:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kaustaub 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up on the marriage. That really should be the 1st priority for you both. People walk away much too quickly @ the first sign of trouble. I'm sure that regardless of how you met & how few people you dated then, what counts is NOW.
As far as working together, you may want to put that on the back burner for now. From what I have seen, there are 2 things that can destroy a marriage if it's not strong enough: building a house, & starting a business. Since you're a full-time student, why don't you see if you can rearrange your schedule to accompany him on a few business trips during the year? That way you can have that quality time that is so vital for a healthy marriage. 16 credits is an awful lot I know, but you're gonna have to ask yourself what's more important to you. If you can spread out the classes just enough to be able to travel w/ him a little, you may be surprised @ what a huge difference that will make in your relationship.
But the most important thing is that you talk to HIM. Tell him what you're thinking & feeling. The biggest mistake we make sometimes is that we talk to everyone BUT our mate about our marriage.
I wish all the best 4 both of you :)
2006-11-04 16:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by Rocker Chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should study what you think you need to get the career you want. Working a job you don't really like is not going to improve your marriage, being happy with your job will. My bosses are married to each other and I think they kind of hate it. They work together and when they come home from work what do you think they talk about? WORK! Another thing is if you work in the same industry you either work together and see each other too much, or you work against each other and end up hearing or saying bad things about the others company.
2006-11-04 17:04:37 · answer #3 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Won't help or hurt. Even if you are in the same industry, if he travels it will be by himself. You just need to find a way to get comfortable with his traveling etc. At least he doesn't go away for three years like sailors used to...
2006-11-04 16:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do whatever it is that is going to make you happy. I hate to say it but it seems you rushed into this marriage and it's in some serious trouble.
2006-11-04 16:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best not to go into business with him, they don't usually work out, too much friction.
2006-11-04 16:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Mary Smith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋