how long can he remain to be so rude?

Question

he works 40 plus hours per week , as skilled trades.
then on the weekends he work doing self employment jobs
as a contractor. we have not had a weekend to ourself in months now.
i am so tired of it! how can i tell him we need time together and get thru to him?
we never even go out for dinner anymore. he never stops early enough for anything. how can i get thru to him?

Answer 1

God forbid he is working hard now to provide you with a better future. Go ahead and cheat on him so I can watch you on the Maury show. You will probably use the excuse that he is never there for you even though it's probably his money that feeds, cloths, warms and shelters you. Whaaaaaaaaaa.

Answer 2

I think you need to ask yourself why he's doing this.

It may be that he's not happy at home. If that's the case you both should sit down a talk over what needs to happen to make it workable for both of you. Or the relationship may be coming to an end, depending on how serious the problem is.

Another option could be he's thinking of the future. Do you guys have something you're saving up for (a house or new house, early retirement, etc) In that case he's probably working himself to death to be able to pay for that for you.

And lastly- make sure you know all about the bills in your house. Is he working so much because he has to, to make ends meet?

I think you need to look at it from his side as well, not just about you and what you want.

Answer 3

Talk to him. Come right out and say that you want some alone time with him. Don't sound agitated or start attacking him verbally. Be nice. It may help by setting a date for the next weekend and tell him not to make any plans because you and him are going to do something together.

Answer 4

This is what I would do........sit the man down and explain to him your feelings and that things need to change. You are a human being and have needs too. If he won't take the time to sit with you and listen, then, time to cut him loose.