I got pregnant and I swear it was an accident....I'm only 15 and I know I'm not ready for a baby. Should I get an abortion? Please help I really need it!!!!!
2006-11-04 08:16:50 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I had my first pregnancy when I was 16. I knew that I was too young, and certainly didn't mean for it to happen. What what is done is done. Having an abortion kills a child that is yours. I know that I will get all thumbs down from other people, but I did not choose abortion. I am now a mom to four kids and a college graduate. A baby doesn't mean the end of your life, just a different path than you might have chosen. My daughter is 7, and very precious to me, especially since she is my only girl. I can't imagine what life would be like without her.
Even if you deicide that you don't want to raise a child, there is always the option of adoption. This is a good solution if you know you will not have the support to raise a child, as it takes a lot of time and effort.
Please take your time with this descicion. I will be praying for you. Good luck, I hope everything turns out ok. You are more than welcome to e-mail me
2006-11-04 08:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by Heather G 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Okay so you are pregnant. An abortion is not the answer!!! You can still have a life and have a baby. Things are just a little harder to do once the baby get here. You are still young and you have your whole life ahead of you. But you can turn this awkward situation into a very positive one in a heartbeat. Give YOUR baby a chance at life. It is not the baby's fault that it has been brought to the world. How does your parents feel about you being pregnant. They are probably really hurt right now but once you have the baby they will be overwhelmed with love, joy and happiness. And so will you. Show the world that you CAN be very Strong and be an adult and do the right hing whether it be have the baby and keep him or her, or give the baby up for adoption. Abortion is not a type of birth control because the egg has already been fertilize. You will never forgive you self and things will be even harder once you are ready to have a baby. It done been done so accept the responsibility and give this baby a chance. Please I am begging the hell out of you to not abort. If you need help there are plenty of organizations out there that can give you plenty of info on adoption. I know a friend that wants more children but can't so think about these loving and deserving people who would love your baby and give it the best life that they could.
2006-11-04 08:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's really a personal decision. I can tell you that I am not for abortion at all. I think that there are alot of good people that are not able to have a baby and that would love to adopt a baby. It all depends on the amount of support that you have around you. First of all you would have to be willing to talk to your parents and let them know what is going on. If the decision ends up that you are going to give it up for adoption you are going to need them too, its not easy giving up a baby, but to me its alot better knowing that you did something for the baby then getting rid of it as if it was never there. In the end you may in the future have the chance at getting to know this person when you are ready for a relationship with him/her. Either decision that you make I think the first thing that needs to be done is that you need to tell your parents. Its going to be hard, but maybe they have other options that you haven't thought about either. I had a friend that had an abortion and something went wrong, she got an infection and she can no longer have children. She has told me that it was the worst thing that she could have done. Now ironically enough she is one of the many that is trying to adopt. Its something that you really need to think about. I hope you talk to someone before making a decision like this on your own.
2006-11-04 08:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by fazugosgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, 1st of all..getting pregnant is never an "accident" unfort. u created a life, and don't want to take care of It..2nd your just a child yourself..are u so naive that u don't know when you have sex, there's ALWAYS a chance you'll get pregnant???? if you have the nerve to get an abortion, you really need help..You choose to give it up for an adoption, to talk to your family, rather your ready or not, you've got a baby living inside of u..you was MORE then ready to have sex, so then that means you was more then ready for whatever was the outcome..I'm 20 y/o married & 18 wks. preg. my hubby or I wasn't ready for this baby, we talked about It, but It wasn't planned, now I feel this baby kick all the time, and I could never imagine killing it, let alone give it up..you need to use whatever brain you may have, and get some help, before you ruin your life, or better yet, your unborn child's life!!!
2006-11-04 09:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by superkisses86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a questions that can be answered by complete strangers. You HAVE to make that desicion for yourself, because at the end of the day YOURE the on;y one who has to live with it. It you truly feel that you couldn't possibly bear to have an abortion then don't. But if you feel like it's something you could live with and you really aren't ready for the responsibility then you can either hav an abortion or give the baby up for adoption. Keep in mind that it is very hard to carry a child to term and endure labor and delivery only to sign away all parental rights to that child. Whatever you decide make sure it's something you can liove with. Take care. I'll keep you in my prayers as I know that this will be one of the most difficult decisions of your life.
2006-11-04 09:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, Hun it may have been a mistake.. However the only way it could have been a mistake is if you used a condom and it broke.. Because you were old enough to know what you were doing when you laid down in that bed with your male friend. I understand that hormones are rampant at this age, but you are old enough to make your choices.
I do understand that you are not really able to take care of this child as it would deserve to be taken care of. But instead of killing an innocent human life my dear, you bear this baby as you should and then put it up for adoption as there are plenty of men and women out there whom can't have kids but wish to.. Hun on the 18th day that baby has a heartbeat, at the moment it is concieved all of it's genetic makeup is already there. I am not trying to lecture or make you feel any worse, but there are just so many young girls and guys whom don't understand the repercussions of having sex at such a young age. Pregnancy is not the only thing you need to worry about either, STD's is at it's highest in the US right now you need to worry about that even more. I hope this is a learning experience for you, and that you will think a little harder before you lay down in that bed for those few minutes of pleasure and fun. and thing about what could be the lifetime of pain, maybe even death. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR BABY GROWING INSIDE, AS IT IS A BEAUTIFUL GIFT OF LIFE. The Lord shall lead you to the right choice, just open yourself up to him and you shall see.. The power of prayer and faith is amazing.
2006-11-04 08:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by cheryl m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey sweetie
i no this is goin to be a hard question for me to answer as im against abortions but puttin my views aside, talk to your parents and ur partner and then you all will be able to look at different options, having a abortion is not the only option u could always have it adopted by a couple who cant have children or ur parents might offer to bring the baby up themselves, i no this is going to be a difficult time for u, if u cant talk to ur parents straight away talk to ur doctor or a different family member, no one can tell u what to do then can only give u advice and support the decision is up to u, if u decide to have a abortion DO NOT blame yourself years to come and Do Not blame yourself now, everyone makes mistakes and u will need a lot of support from family and friends.
i wish u good luck and best wishes x
2006-11-04 08:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by Cheeky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is all up to you but i was 16 when i had my son who is now 8 and i finished high school and went to school for my certificate in surgical technology. and now i have my own business as a truck driver and i'm doing pretty well. and now i'm 24 and pregnant with my second. it is really up to you it will be very hard but as long as you are determined you will do very well. as for abortion i don't agree with abortion (which can also cause a chance for sterilization) there are other options there are plenty of people who can't have and would love to adopt. me personally if i had to do it all over again i would do it exactly the same so i could have my son i don't know what i would have done without him. good luck and you can email me at divatrucker25@yahoo.com if you need to.
2006-11-04 08:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by divatrucker25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO abortion is soo wrong please dont get an abortion and its very painful to my mom says after words she always wonder what if just go along with the pregenacy if people dont like it tell them to screw off i mean yes i am 15 i know where ur coming from.. and if u still dont want the baby when u have it adoption would be best but please dont get and abortion... fact when u do get an abortion the baby has full deveopled it would be like killing a new born i know people who have had it done and they say its painful ( wrost painon the scale of 1 - 10 they says ita 10 ) and after words they were depressed and i dont kno u but i wouldnt want this to happend to u
2006-11-04 08:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by Morgann 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Abortion is wrong it is murder and it should not be legal but, I would never scorn a woman who did have an abortion Jesus died for our sins who am I to judge another person. I have friends who have had abortions and it still haunts them I wouldn't want that for anyone. You are so young to have to live with the pain of an abortion for the rest of your life. Please consider adoption tell your parents and let them help you with this decision. Your baby already has a soul he or she is a beautiful loving child of God who bring joy to your life even if you don't raise him or her. A child is Gods most precious gift. God makes us all in his own image every life is valid.
2006-11-04 09:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by aintgivinup79 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋