I feel like I am going crazy. I am totally possesive. I want to know his every move. I still check his phone bills and question him about evertything. I cant seem to get over it. I know I am driving him crazy. If this doesn't end soon I will lose him and he is a good guy who made a mistake. Heaven knows I am no angel. There is no sign of him still cheating, but he continues to lose weight. I am bothered by that too. Is there any one else out there that has gone through this and kept their sanity!? What do I do?
2006-11-04 08:13:46 · 16 answers · asked by dana t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good lord, it's ancient history. Move on.
2006-11-04 08:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by icynici 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Being cheated on is not easy to get over. Living the way you have described checking everything possible will drive you crazy. After a while the checking and spying becomes an obsession that takes control of your life. As hard as it may be you must make a decision if you want the marriage to work stop what your doing focus on something other than the need to know. If you don't you will lose him. I hate to tell you though, we were given the gift of intuition if you feel he is still up to not good they he probably is. I found this out the hard way not just once but twice. You think looking for evidence will help you but when you find what you have been looking for you will wished you would not of. Have you thought about what you are going to do if you do find something? Before you do anything else you better ask yourself this hard question and find an answer..
2006-11-05 08:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by dettie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do, you will never get over the fact that your husband had an affair. The memory may dim only after he does things that make you trust him as you did once before. A woman never forgets anything, especially a cheating husband! Many things may help you(going to therapy, talking with your priest/ minister, talking to someone you can trust with your feelings, etc.), but only your husband can do the things that will make you trust him again! Good luck and I hope you find happiness in your future.
2006-11-04 16:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by Sue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to forgive him,{really}just not say you do because before use can start over you have to for get and forgive,I know from past experiece{like you] Its a growing progress,But you,ve had lond anuff now,and I do not awnt to be mean,but get over it,Get off the piyyt pot,Its been Long anouff to feel sorry for yourself and you made him pay with guilt long anuff,thats why He,s losing all the wuieght out of guilt and he knows you don,t for give him!Now to move on Sweety,You have to never mention that woman,s name ever again to him!Don,t let her win,She wants you to drive him away,Because in her sick mind she knows that will bring jhim back to her!Start Fresh And forgive him and yOU Make it!Good Luck,Hollywoood
2006-11-04 16:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you a question: Did you forgive him? If the answer is yes, then get over it. You are not doing yourself or him any good by being jealous. Jealousy is such an ugly emotion. Him losing weight is a good thing. He is taking pride in himself and probably want to look better for you.
2006-11-04 16:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Are you kidding, the reason he is probably losing weight is because he is getting depressed about the situation, get OFF of his back about or go to cheaters.com and let them help you that way you know for sure
2006-11-04 16:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by connie m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave him alone!!! Your stressing him is probly causeing him to lose weight. And is very bad for his health. If you can't get over it you might as well move on. To much stress is really not good
2006-11-04 16:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by kooimanlora 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on before you end up with a mental disorder.
2006-11-04 16:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...if you can't forgive then you are going to drive him off...right now he still feels guilty and he should but...sooner or later it will drive him off
2006-11-04 16:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by loofa36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok that you're not over it. Talk to one of your friends so you can get this off your mind.
2006-11-04 16:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋