How can i stop masturbating?

Question

I am serious about this it is ruining my life everytime i do it yet i keep getting urges to do it..I want to stop.

Answer 1

Make it a goal or have someone help you. If you have a bf/gf, get them to make a deal with you. I knew this girl who's bf just told her right up, "promise me you won't do it again" and she stopped, just cuz she would feel guilty doing it after what her bf said.

Answer 2

Hmmm. That's a tough one...

Ok. Here's the deal. When you masturbate, you're pleasing yourself and it feels good. Really good. You can suddenly be siezed by these urges at almost any time and it's hard to control. Unfortunately, something called our conscious keeps nagging at us saying something's not quite right here. Truth, and a pain.

You're not alone. There are a lot of people that do this, and want to stop at the same time.

You can take two approaches to this.

First, perhaps it's happening all the time, every day nearly all the time. That's not good, and the wear and tear downstairs will inevitably cause problems later on when you get into a relationship which will need everything working a-ok.

C.S. Lewis said that only 5 + 5 = 10, right. Perfect world. Stop.

So maybe that's a little hard. Think of it this way. Take an average week, and maybe you're 5 + 4. It's still not 10, but it's a heck of a lot closer than 0 + 0... if you're catching my meaning.

Do that until you're 5 + 5. It might take a while, or it might take the week until your little successes here and there add up to a great month.

That's the first way.

The second:
Think about what you're doing, just like you are right now every day. Now, fast forward your life 5 years from now and think about how much pain that might cause you. Now, fast forward your life 10 years from now and look at what kind of problems that will create for you. Think of as many as you can think of because of your current activity. Now, think about your life 15, then 20, then 30 years in the future and all the pain that it will cause for you. Think about how every time you do that, you will be ruining something that could be great later on in your life.

Now, think about who you are as a person and what you believe in and how you have the power and the choice to stop any time you want, because you don't want to create all the heartache later on in life.

Hope that helps your decision and makes sense.

Answer 3

there i absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation. why would you want to stop and how is it ruining your life. masturbation is very common and almost everyyone who is normal does this not just men, women too. It is a way to release stress, make yourself feel good and a lot of the time urges may come when your not with a spouse, or boyfriend and girlfriend. why stop

Answer 4

Marry Lorina Bobbette.

Answer 5

Maybe it would be easier to stop in the long run if you just let yourself do it without stressing so much about it. You know, get it out of your system. It's a great way to relieve tension and give yourself a little treat.

Answer 6

i have this problem too. i have a weird obession of wanting to watch porn and masturbate when my husband is at work or gone. its not that the sex isnt great or anything because i love it, but i also like touching and pleasing myself.

i dont think that i should stop it though. when i do, its for me.. not for someone else's pleasure. it isnt something that can ruin your life either. its just something you like to do. enjoy it. your human and if it feels good... then it feels good.

best wishes.

Answer 7

Fill that empty time with something else like going for a walk or doing some exercise. Give yourself no spare time. Good luck!!

Answer 8

I think u should seek some sex therapy. It really also depends on how often is to often, if it's interrupting your life then I suggest u seek professional help.

Answer 9

How often ? if it is totally consuming your entire life you might need some help but, it might just be a phase you are going through

Answer 10

keep it up maybe you'll get sick and tired of doing it, I know someone with the same issue but I think she's going to do it as much as possible I guess its part of her hobby.