What do you think of a couple who is living together without being married? What would your parents, or older generation think? What would your grandparents think? What attitudes have changed? Are they changing still??
2006-11-04 07:33:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all, for some of you.....
The woman is NOT pregnant. And she is on birth control. They will not have a child and they are very careful. Their plans in the future will be to get married and THEN have children. This isn't a teen couple either. They are like 25 years old. I hope this makes it more clear.
PS.... How is a woman a $lut is she lives with her BOYFRIEND?!?
That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard!!!!
2006-11-04 07:59:17 · update #1
Today, living together without being married isn't as taboo as it once was. People about your grandparents age might be hesitant about it simply because, to them in their time, it meant you weren't committed enough for marriage or that you were "living in sin". Think about it, Lucy and Ricky never slept in the same bed on "I Love Lucy", even after they had their child. People about your parents ago are slightly more relaxed since they grew up in the age of the hippie.
Our generation, however, grew up with shows like "Sex in the City" and sitcoms that featured friends living together and having sex (Ross and Rachel anyone?). Our society is becoming more relaxed about sex without marriage, we have swingers clubs and events geared to singles. In the 1970's, night clubs arose with the sole purpose of getting singles together. I think things are still changing and, while some people are still trying to get the country to become more conservative, its moving in the direction of less judgement and more freedom.
2006-11-04 07:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by irishgypsy88 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. It's the same as being married but without the papers. The same demands are being made as well as the same considerations, disagreements, financial responsibilities and overall obligations. In some respects it's better than marriage because when it's over it's over without having to go through the courts for a divorce. What you come into the relationship with you leave with and make sure that you keep your own stability separate from your live ins even if they want a "joint" account. And don't make a life time commitment like buying a house or car together because there will be a fight as if you were married.
2006-11-04 07:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in all that jazz, then yes. My boyfriend's parents, my grandmother, and mother all believe this about us. My mother keeps her opinion to herself because it is my life, and she respects that. My grandmother makes occasional comments. His parents don't say it, but we know they're thinking it. I'm agnostic, and if hell exists, I don't believe anyone goes to hell for something so trivial. I'm pretty sure the fact that we live in the same apartment isn't hurting anyone. He's Christian, and he doesn't go to church or associate with many other Christians for this very reason. He doesn't think this kind of stuff is really applicable to every day life anymore. On a very personal note, I've lived with two men in my life. Had I not, I may have ended up marrying the first guy, and that would have been a major mistake. Living with him helped me realize he was not the man I wanted to marry. Living with my current boyfriend and likely future husband has helped me realize exactly how to handle our future together. We pretty much live like we are married now. If we can make it through difficulties now and are willing to work together, we'll definitely make a marriage survive. Had I not lived with him, I don't think we would have realized how strong we are as a couple.
2016-05-21 23:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A piece of paper or a ceremony changes nothing, it is the commitment to each other that matters. Getting married because people expect you to is a waste of time.
I am 55, I lived with my husband for 18 months before we married, we have now been married for 31 years. My father has still not forgiven me.
My 3 daughters, aged 24, 26 and 28 have always known we lived together before marriage and think nothing of it. One is married; one has a relationship that included her partner staying over and her staying at his place, though they never actually moved in together; the other still lives at home.
There is a whole lot more to living together than the sexual aspect, it's all about compromise and shared space and commitment to one another. Here in New Zealand the law treats people in de facto relationships the same as married couples, provided they have been together more than 2 years.
2006-11-04 07:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely the dumbest thing a guy and girl can do! Frequently the guy gets stuck being a dad because there was a little mix up with the birth control. The girl becomes emotionally married in the relationship that has no commitment. Any generation with half a brain would say it is dumb, dumb, dumb. Nothing has changed as far as I am concerned. A $lut is a $lut.
2006-11-04 07:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Personally, been there damn that. I moved out when I was 21 with my then 19 yr. old boyfriend. It was cool and all,but I wouldn't advise it to a independent woman or to any woman honestly. We have 2 sons and finally, I gave him the sthaletto.(not the boot) He was a cheater and a liar. I never married him he asked 3 rings. I knew that he was not the one, just one of. Our parents had nothing really to say, my Mom and Dad were always supportive. His they well you can't have it all. 16 years later 11-25-05 the day I got me all back. How great is The King?
2006-11-04 07:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by jrneytime 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have not been through this before. However, i believe that livoing together before you are married can give you somewhat of a glimpse as to how your lives will be together further donw the road, so I would consider it a good thing. At the same time, though, many will reject cuz they think it is against some sort of moral. I don't think so and I think it is a greta idea.
2006-11-04 07:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by Angel in Practice 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Totally agree with living together ..You get to know the person inside and out before a ring goes on the finger. I bet if more people lived together there would be less divorces. Who cares what people think
2006-11-04 08:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by Kimo 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i've been living with someone for about 5 years and all i can say is i don't care what anyone thinks because it's none of their damn business. as for any of my family members they love me unconditionally like family should. the way i feel is if it does not have anything to do with harming them then everyone should mind their own business and the world will be a better place.
2006-11-04 07:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think its okay. I don't think theres a problem with it. Except I heard once (I might be wrong) but that couples that live together before they get married, have a higher divorce rate than those that don't do that.
2006-11-04 07:39:14 · answer #10 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋