An old friend of mine has been throwing her life away! She's 13 and has had sex,had pot,cuts herself for no reason(no,really,NO reason!)and she has decided that she's bi,but that's not what bothers me'the fact that she "touches" my other friend for her own enjoyment is abit over bourd.She won't listen to me,EVER.I'm tired of it,but I dont wanna watch her get her self killed one day! PLZ!! What do I DO!!???
2006-11-04 07:00:29 · 13 answers · asked by Brittany H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Unfortunately, if shes choosing this behavior and will not listen to you, there's not much you can do. I know it may be painful to watch, but just like when someone is an alcoholic, no one can help them but themselves. I would suggest sitting her down and telling her that she needs to stop acting like this and doing these self-destructive things and get help, or you can no longer be her friend. Or, you just have to accept the fact that she does these things, and hope that someday she will wake up and see the error of her ways.
By the way, dont bring the whole bisexual thing into the conversation. You never know, she may really have feelings for other women, and is having a hard time with it, and this may be the cause of her behavior. Definitely leave that part out, and you have to deal with that on your own. But the smoking pot, having sex, and cutting herself needs to be addressed.
Good luck, and I hope everything turns out ok!
2006-11-04 07:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by glddstgpsy26 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Report your concerns to an adult. Someone who is behaving in this way at 13 is pretty mixed up and you are too young to take on her issues. Go to someone like a school counselor. You are not betraying her. You might be saving her life. All of these things are a cry for help not normal 13 year old behavior.
Then I suggest you let her know that you can't stay friends with her based on her present behavior. If she wants to be friends with you she needs to change. And stick to your guns. You don't want her dragging you into the muck with her.
2006-11-04 07:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All you can do is tell her - if that doesn't work then you might want to distance yourself from her. She sounds like a bad apple.
Her problems are probably stemming from a need for attention - and if she gets the attention she craves (by either you or her parents noticing) then it will only fuel the fire. Try ignoring her for a week and see what she does. It might help things out.
2006-11-04 07:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your friend really needs professional help. Does her parents know what is going on with this child.( Yes I said child), because that is what she is, A child. Are you close with her family or do you know them at all. Is this girl in school? If so how about the Guidance Councillor, Could you tell him or her what is up with this girl. You say you are her friend, But you know that THERE IS NOT MUCH THAT YOU CAN DO YOURSELF TO HELP HER. She has to want to help herself as well.
2006-11-04 07:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by Cas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The very best thing to do for her is PRAY!!! She sounds like she is pretty far gone but she is still young and can still straighten her life out. Keep encouraging her that she is better than that and that the things she is doing are bad and could very easily ruin her life. Be there for her and most of all pray!
2006-11-04 07:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by frances d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cannot control another person. This advice will save you a lot of frustration now and in the future. You are not responsible for another's actions or the consequences.
You either need to accept what your friend is doing or distance yourself.
2006-11-04 07:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You picked up the wrong kind of person for a friend. She may have a bad childhood, which is not your fault. If you stick with her, she will drag you with her to maybe something bad. So stay away from her.
2006-11-04 07:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know she is doisng this contact a grown up. I know it soundsd like a tattle tale but if you are really concerned, she has to get professional help. She might seem like she hates you at that moment, but when she realizes that you saved her life, she will be eternally grateful.
2006-11-04 07:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by boriquagirl_19 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's out of your hands. tell her mom, or a teacher or someone like that, and then do your best to forget about it. you can't make your friend behave the way u know she should. she's making really bad choices tho' and you need to stay away from her. you're a good friend...u DID try...now let go.
2006-11-04 07:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by meme 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really care about her, talk to the girl's parents. See if they'll consider finding her some counseling.
2006-11-04 07:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋