My husband says that he will always be unhappy in this marriage because I did not turn out to be the wife he thought I would be.He told his brother that he wants to be with a certain other woman because she can give him the financial stability he needs
2006-11-04 06:56:50 · 46 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And you want to keep him? He sounds like a lazy bum looking for a Sugar Mama.
2006-11-04 06:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by Emm 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The ultimate answer is that you can't. You are not responsible for his happiness, only your own. get the feeling he is making excuses for his own inadequacies. was interested to read that "He told his brother that he wants to be with a certain other woman because she can give him the financial stability he needs" So.........is he confusing financial stability with being happy? If he is, I dare say he'll find that the grass is not greener just because there is more cash to go around. I wonder if you and he have had a non-confrontational talk about things? Marriage guidance/councelling might help but rather than worry about his needs maybe you should reassess what you want from your marriage and how to best get it. You may even concluded you are better off out of it, but that is something only you can decided.
2006-11-04 07:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Financial stability can be defined in other ways than what people are interpreting here. By financial stability, do you mean that you are spending a lot of money and he is not happy because you do not know how to save? Or does he mean that he expects you to support him?
If you are spending too much, then you need to change your behavior so he can be happy. If he expects you to support him, then I am sorry to say that it appears that he is not the traditional man in the money side of the house. If you are a traditional woman, then you do not match. If you want to save your marriage you will have to go to a professional, because this is a very difficult contrast. The bad news is that one WILL have to change. This is not something that can be lived with for ever. If you or him are not willing to change, then you will end up in divorce, affairs, etc.
2006-11-04 07:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by jasonheavilin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel dreadful that your husband says this. Does he mean he is looking for a woman who could bring him wealth? This is no basis for a loving, lasting marriage. Talk to him and ask him to clarify. If he's after money, tell him you have none and you're more than happy to let him find someone who gives him the money he so desperately wants. Something just sounds so wrong in your relationship. Have you been open with him about what he thinks? Have you been squandering his money?
2006-11-04 08:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and i have had our share of arguments but ive never thrown that at her.
Im the bread winner, but i never have to worry about having nothing clean to wear or come home to a dirty house.
I also cook and do some housework when she's busy seeing to the kids.
Tell your husband to go to this woman, but dont come crawling back if he has to cook and clean for them both,and then you'll find a real man who appreciates you for what you contribute to a relationship not what he can get!!
If he goes he's not worth it anyway and i am sure it will end in tears.
Dont let him make you feel inadequate ,your priceless, and a real man wouldn't complain!
Hes acting like a spoilt child!!
2006-11-04 08:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by lovemeister 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not say how long you've been married.i think that you both need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart. no pussyfooting about. did he propose marriage first? if he did. ask him why he wanted to marry you? this might lead him to remember when he was happy with and in love with. it restart the spark. if not.well.the certain other woman,has he been seeing her?has he been unfaithful?if he is not if love with you anymore ask him why.it might break your heart to hear the true. maybe the monies side of things is just excuse. if all fails seek help from the right source. good luck.
2006-11-04 07:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't about you - it's about her bank balance - if you had her bank balance you would be better than the best thing since sliced bread .... until all you had left were the crusts .... then he'd go looking for a new loaf of bread ..... just like he's doing now ..... don't shed another tear or waste another angst moment or anything else over him - find your own version of superglue and stick your heart back together .... there are many out there that would love to have you on their arm - get shot of him and go and find one ..... pronto!
2006-11-07 04:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are alot of issues in a marriage. first you both made a commentment to one another. You should really talk to him. Fist money is not that important. If he thinks so he needs to take another look at life. If he loved you he will try to work things out starting with him self in side. If you do get words in, tell him the grass is not greener on the other side. He might get more money but where will that relationship but him. I do beleive to do everything you can to save a marriage but if he doesn't love you, then I don't beleive you should stay for the rest of your life to not be loved. Everyone deserves love! Good luck and hope everything works out for you.
2006-11-04 07:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by mamato5Boys 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side!
Tough one. I'm sure you hadn't signed up to a relationship, where your partner fancies somebody else. If he only wants to be with her for the finances, he is not what she is looking for. So could it be, that he is just using the money as an excuse? But whatever you do, don't beg him to stay!!! Keep your dignity & in time he might come around - that's if you still want him then...
2006-11-04 07:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by Hipira 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're fighting "a losing battle", if he's already made up his mind he wants another woman....for whatever reason, financial, or otherwise. Don't let him destroy your self-confidence. If he wants another woman, tell him to hit the road...just be sure he sends his child support every month!! Good Luck....you're NEVER going to make him happy....he's not a happy person!
2006-11-04 07:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow... what an idiot your man is. A woman should not be to support the man. The man should take care of the woman financially. The woman should serve the man and her children. You need to find a better man,. You sound like a good woman. Sorry u picked a loser.
2006-11-04 06:59:00 · answer #11 · answered by Roger S 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋