It's not very healthy is it? My life is crap. I have no job. I have few freinds. The church I am trying to be involved in is making it really hard for me to join a small group. Tonight I'm meant to be at a party but I couldn't be bothered going as I won't know anyone and no one will speak to me. And my boyfriend was awful to me and left me with an abortion. I want to love a guy, but they've only ever used me. When I get tired of this I'll go to bed and wake up tomorrow and life will remain predictably empty.
2006-11-04 06:55:51 · 15 answers · asked by Josephine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I wasn't invited to the party. I had to buy a ticket. It was at the church I want to join, to celebrate 10 years of having that minister. I don't know him.
2006-11-04 07:22:49 · update #1
the reason why you feel so lonely is coz your not getting out enough...you were invited to a party...you refused coz you don't know anyone...thing is...that's the whole idea, going out and meeting people...there is life after love sweetie...you must learn how to move on, this is the reason why you are feeling lonely...because your dwelling on the past...put these things to bed Hun, accept invitations, your never gonna meet anyone if you keep refusing, your boyfriend is a loser for leaving you like that....it takes alot to go through what you went through...if and when you meet someone else...don't allow yourself to be used...be a strong woman....don't be a doormat, you need inner strength, but first don't lock yourself away from outside life..you need that to move on...when you wake tomorrow, think positive thoughts...don't dwell....plan your day, do something different, get out of the habit, life is not that bad really...you only get out of life what you put into it....so try and focus on other things and if your asked to a party...TAKE IT....
2006-11-04 07:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry you feel that way. I feel lonely too. I've just moved back to London after spendong 3 years away and have come back to no one but my family. My little sisters have more friends than I do and thats saying something. I think it is quite hard to make friends at an older age than it is when you are younger. People always say things like get involved in clubs to meet new people and all that but to be honest, what my area has to offer is nothing to write home about plus im not interested in gym, pilates or yoga etc. to be honest. Plus for me working 40 hours a week leaves me drained and just wanna go home and wtach tv and eat then go to bed. I soemtimes wonder what is wrong with me cos i know im a nice person who does get along well with other people, but then thats about it. I hope we both find friends and life fufilments soon. Good luck.
2006-11-04 15:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by Carmit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do some thing worth while with your time. You say you have no job...then you'll have plenty of time to dedicate to working for a charity. (and I'm not talking about folding jumpers at your local charity shop!)
Get involved in a charity that offers training.
You'll meet loads of like minded people, will be doing something worth while and will start to feel so much better about yourself!
(maybe think about helping women in same situation you are having had abortions? or a helpline for children? Supporting people who are depressed? )
Use your own experiences and interests as a guide!
You have a lot you can offer other people.
Good luck!
2006-11-04 16:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by Ah! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to Jehovah's Witnesses. I know people here will put the thumbs down but seriously do that.
Normally I say lots of stupid crap on here because I am a loud mouth behind a keyboard, but I know from people they can offer you a life that you'd so desire with close friendship and above all love. I read your question and some reason I truly respect you and you can do what you want and that's fine.
This is just advice that I can feel will help you and put you on good standing and happiness.
2006-11-04 15:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by Spadesboffin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds pretty bad. Try to find a constructive way to utilize your time. If your church is making things hard on you then find a different church. And if your invited to a party the person who invited you should know you. Shyness is a tough barrier to overcome, but when you go to a party don't expect people to come up and talk to you. Go and talk to them. I hope things get better for you.
2006-11-04 15:03:15 · answer #5 · answered by jmethod81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave the churches alone they will just depress you further,strange people use religion As a crutch Why didnt you ask one of your few friends too the party with you? have you never heard of contraception. And guys will only use you if you let them, be a little more assertive. And generally if you make the effort to speak to people they will talk back
2006-11-05 12:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by mac 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you're suffering with depression. You really need to talk youre feelings through with someone. Don't get a load of pill of the GP. Get good one-to-one advice, Ask a social worker to recommend someone. good luck
2006-11-04 14:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to another church.
2006-11-04 15:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because a lot of people have hurt you and abused your trust. you feel you can't trust or bother with them anymore, because you know what will happen; it always does: people ignore you, stare at you, talk down to you and love making you feel like crap.
maybe that is why because that is how i feel. i am in your situation as well.
2006-11-04 15:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wanna share a taxi to rock bottom.
2006-11-04 15:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋