2006-11-04 06:48:53 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
first of all tell someone you trust!
No matter what anyone tells you do what you think you can do. Under no circumstances though can I tell you abortion is right. I dont beleive in it. There are too many people who are willing to adopt. But just know this isnt the end of your life, just the beginning of your childs. There is help and resources available to you. But you have to tell someone. Start with a parent, relative or school counselor.
2006-11-04 06:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by dientzy1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Having a child isn't the end of the world. I found out when I was 16 that if I stayed on birth control I might never be able to have a child so my (now) husband and I decided that we would stop the birth control and have a child. I got pregnant when I was 17 and gave birth at 18. I am now 23 and have 3 wonderful kids (even though they are pains most of the time I wouldn't trade it for anything). I have also starting college and am in my 2nd year of my bachelors degree. So just because your going to have a child at a young age doesn't mean you still can't make something out of your life it just makes it a bit harder.
Terminating a pregnancy has risks. If something goes wrong you might never be able to have kids. And from experience of friends adoption is heart wrenching. You go 9 months carrying a child and no matter how hard you try you become attached to it.
Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something. This has to be your choice. If everyone is against it remember there are support groups for people in your situation. You are not alone even though it feels like it.
2006-11-04 07:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by klickie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, goody, another kid making a kid!
And if the sperm donor/"father" does not intend to assume financial responsibility of the kid, there's always the American taxpayer to fall back on. Lovely...
I'm sorry if my comments upset you or the support group that has amassed here, but "closing the barn door after the horse gets out" is not the way to go. There are responsible ADULT couples out there who would love to have a child yet cannot afford it nor hope to get any kind of "gub'ment help" because they most likely make too much money. But YOU don't have that problem because you'll be an unwed teen mother with no job, so you'll get all kinds of gub'ment goodies courtesy of said taxpayer (whether kicking and screaming or not).
Alas, the truth does hurt, and I'm sorry for that. But my advice to you: put it up for adoption! You're obviously not ready to be a parent and there are nice, loving, childless (for whatever reason) couples who would provide a good, nurturing home. You obviously cannot depend on that deadbeat boyfriend of yours who, judging by your previously-posted questions, is in and out of jail.
Whatever you decide, good luck! You'll need it!
2006-11-04 07:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you must tell the father. Then the two of you need to tell both sets parents. There might be screaming and yelling and crying, but they need to know so they can help you make the best decision for you and the child. You are the one that has to make the final decision. It will not be an easy decision. In fact this will probably be one of the hardest decision you will ever make. Think about talking to someone you trust like a teacher, counselor, your minister. They can help you tell your parents too. The sooner everyone knows the better the situation will be.
2006-11-04 06:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by J L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to keep the baby? If not then you can give the baby up for adoption. First, do your parents know? If they don't then you should just go ahead and tell them right now. They will be mad at first and shocked. But still they will eventually get over it and you will be so relieved to tell them. But if you do want to keep the baby then you should. Don't let anyone tell you that your too young or that you can't do it, because you can do it. So my advice is follow your heart, don't let anyone else make the decision for you. It's your baby so therefore it's your decision. Good luck.
2006-11-04 07:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by brittneyn127 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here where I live an abortion cost about 100 bucks but this can be done only in a short period pregnant of time. On the other hand a child is good but you must be responsible for you and that child. Also you need support from people who can help, expecialy with healthy food. Try to talk with people who loves you and know you best. To keep the baby or loose him is your choice, but think of your future and what you want to be or to do in your future.
2006-11-04 07:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by 1answer 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i hope and pray that you have a loving and supportive family. if you do, count yourself blessed and rely on them. if you dont, look for a support group in your area. if you choose to keep your child, there are PLENTY of organizations that can help you with nutritional needs as well as doctors visits. and also remember that whatever you put your mind to, you can achieve. having a child doesnt hold you back, but sometimes things do take a LITTLE longer. we have a local school called cyesis, where you attend up until you have the child, and after your postnatal care, yuo can return and they help you take care of your child, and offer all kinds of great things. the internet is a great resource. use it to see what you can dig up in your area. i wish you the best of luck! stay strong!!
2006-11-04 08:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT have an abortion...been there at your age...done that ....and regret it...and its stuck with me for the rest of my life....I could tell you a horror story about what happened that would make your eyes water...but anyways..go get on medicaid and food stamps, find a job, if your baby's dad is going to be around great..if not get him for child support so you have financial help....and have a baby...your young but you can do it....be positive and keep your head up.....god bless
2006-11-04 11:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Search for a Crisis Pregnancy Center 4 different ways!
http://www.cpclink.com/
call: 214-703-0505.
2006-11-04 07:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by KT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing you need to do is talk to your parents and decide what your going to do whether raise it or put it up for adoption or abortion if that is what you agree with. then you set up appointment with doctor. your parents will be more understanding than you think. i was 16 when i had my son so i know what your going through. any questions just email me at divatrucker25@yahoo.com. good luck
2006-11-04 06:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by divatrucker25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋