wash real good with soap and water you'll be okay am i right? I'm have beatiful red hair and he says thatit like a like flashing when i'm in a crowd and i raise my arm and they can see the hair? hes wanting to get a divorce if i dont shave my legs and under my arms.I think hes too picky and i'm sick of it.What do you think?
2006-11-04 06:48:33 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
first of all soap and water isn't enough..
shave it , it gives a great felling and use deodorant ...it's so necessary .....
and i believe that legs should be shaved too....
i mean i'm a female and i think so , so don't be disappointed with ur husband ..most of people don't like the hair on body..
he's not picky cuz it is so important to like how ur partner looks like.
so shave it and save ur marriage....
2006-11-04 07:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by oomx555 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As far as the deodorant goes, you're wrong. Just using soap and water does not work. You need to use deodorant/antiperspirant to keep away the perspiration and odor especially. You don't want to stink, do you? Having hairy underarms increases the odor because it clings to the hair.
A lot of women these days don't shave their legs, but at least shave your underarms.
I don't know how long you have been married (were you not shaving the whole time?), but I don't think your marriage will last unless someone compromises on this issue.
2006-11-04 08:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Tara662 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did u shave before u got married? If u did, u should continue to do so because it is not worth getting a divorce over. If you have never shaved then he should not expect u to do it now. Also, washing real good with soap is not good enough because u perspire throughout the day and may start to smell bad.
2006-11-04 06:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sandeep S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not ok. If you don't use deodorant... just use soap and water, that fresh smell will only be temporary. Because your underarms are not exposed to the air 24/7 the hairs under your arms will become moist and then you will smell.. and that's not good, so just wear deodorant...
About the shaving thing can't help you there... that's your decision.
2006-11-04 06:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by caged_bird88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, no, I don't think you're right. Soap is not an anti-perspirant, and when you do sweat, it won't keep your armpits from stinking then. Think how you would feel if your husband came up with some crackpot theory about how personal hygene is silly and should be ignored, and started doing things that made him not only less aesthetically appealing to you, but also made him stinky and unpleasant for you to touch. How would you feel? Seriously, if you care so little for what he thinks that you can't take like 2 minutes of your precious time to shave, why are you even married to him?
2006-11-04 06:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by sticknpuck82 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's going to divorce you because you won't shave?!? Could he really be that superficial? OMG!
There is a deodorant that is not a deodorant, its called crystal stick. (follow link) It will stop the sweat you produce from creating the bacteria that causes a natural funk. Even if you are very clean with soap and water, by the end of the day you will stink. This will control that. My husband and I use it and we love it.
2006-11-04 07:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuck, the hair is just nasty on a woman. Its just common for a woman to shave her legs and her armpits. In America anyway. But I have a sister in law that doesnt shave, and its just gross. You DO need deoderant too. Even if is common where you live...its just gross on a woman....not to shave or use deoderant. It feels so much better when you shave. Its smooth and soft and silky. Thats why men love it.
I think your hubby is going a bit too far by asking for a divorce though.
2006-11-04 08:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first, i don't know if you shaved your legs and underarms when you and your husband first met; he could feel betrayed or cheated if you used to do it but don't do it anymore, but regardless, if he loves you the right way he would respect your choices about your body; it's just up to you--is it really a big deal to shave under your arms to make him happy? how important is it to you? remember, this goes both ways.
about the deoderant thing, are you smelly??? try natural deoderants as well, check for them in the drugstore; i use one that is made from mineral salts or something like that, it works fine. probably having hair there makes it more smelly tho.
2006-11-04 06:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by KJC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping it clean is good but during the day the hairs can help sweat build up. You still definitely need deodorant. I'd recommend shaving as well. Why are you avoiding shaving/deodorant anyway????
2006-11-04 07:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by Cate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..how much do you want to be with your husband?. Sounds like a pretty small thi8ng to be split up over. Perhaps he is offended by your smell?..I know I can;'t stand to be near someone stinky..especially if it is the man i am dating!..Is this a new thing you are doing not using deodorant and shaving?..That would be hard to get use to. Smell is one of the biggest turn on and offs in the human sensory department. .. .if your marriage is worth it..shave and use deodorant..
2006-11-04 07:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋