My ex-fiance and I split about 6 years ago and he insisted that I keep the ring. He got it at a place that you can take it back and trade it in for the full purchase price toward something that costs at least twice what he paid. Here's my question. Is it wrong for me to take it back and trade it in for a necklace that I love? I offered to give it back when we split but he didn't want it. Since then I have found out that he sold a truck that I paid half of, so am I entitled to the money from the ring? I'd call him and ask his feelings, but since I got married and he found someone new too, he won't talk to me. I don't want to spend money that isn't really mine, but then again, he never sent me my half of the money from the truck! Any comments would be greatly appreciated! :-)
2006-11-04 06:40:34 · 19 answers · asked by rowdiegurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go ahead and get that necklace! Your ex-fiance gave you that ring, so it's yours. You are entitled to do what ever you please with it. You shouldn't even bother trying to contact him. This happen six years ago not six weeks ago, so obviously he doesn't care about the ring. He sold the truck... you go ahead and trade the ring!! Besides he moved on with his life and you moved on with yours. So what's the problem? Or are you just hanging on to that ring as an excuse to someday have a reason to talk to him? Good luck!!
2006-11-04 06:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by M & M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He gave you the ring as a symble of his love and a promise of things to come. It did not work out. He did not take it back because of personal reasons. Maybe he gave it to you as a gift and in the spirit of a gift, he felt it was not right to take it back. Maybe he did not want to be reminded that the dream has died... But he also may have wanted you to keep it as a reminder of a life you could have had. How long can he book you on the guilt trip of a failed relationship? It depends, how long will you let him? You offered to sell the ring and give him half he didn't take you up on it. It is your ring, you can do whatever you want with it. You can keep it, and drive you next man crazy on wither or not your still carrying a torch or you can get the necklace and prove that you have moved on.
2006-11-04 15:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take the ring back and get the necklace you like so much. Besides, its been 6 YEARS!!!
Forget the money from the truck and go trade the ring for that necklace already!!!!
2006-11-05 01:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by meggamom6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont agree that the ring is not yours. It is yours. It was given to you as a gift regardless whether it was an intention to marry, it was still a gift, therefore that makes it yours. And when something is yours you can do anything you want with it. You can give it away, you can sell it, you can trade it Your ex knows it is yours that is why he didnt want it back. You own the ring, therefore it is your decision what you want to do with it. If your best friend gave you a nice pair of shoes for your birthday, would you give them back to her if you had a falling out? No, you wouldnt. When a person gives another a gift, it is no longer theirs, it belongs to the person who they gave it to. I wouldnt worry about it at all....go buy yourself the necklace you love because what good is the ring just sitting there getting old, you may as well do something with it. It has no meaning for you anymore, therefore it makes sense to me to get something you really want. And like I said, the ring belongs to you anyway, so you can do anything you like with it.
2006-11-04 14:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ring was a gift to you. You accepted it in good faith, and you assumed that the relationship would work out. When you broke up, you offered to give it back to him. He told you to keep it. It is now yours to do with as you wish.
Note: He might have wanted you to keep it in hopes that you guys would get back together? You kept it safe for a long time. Now it is time to trade it in. You will never wear or enjoy the ring again, will you?
2006-11-04 14:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Heidi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the ring...get your necklace...no sense in holding onto a piece of jewelry that was sentimental, especially when you're married to someone else now.
As far as the money from the truck goes...I'd let it go, unless you're hard up for cash and don't mind putting up a fight for it ( I don't see him just handing over a check if you guys aren't on speaking terms)
2006-11-04 14:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Luvitall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay so i have a ring too from an ex-lover so to speak...and i have tried to pawn it off and what have yous, but i cant seem to do it. But if you have no problem with holding on to it i would just go ahead and get your money he gave it to you and it is yours. If you both have moved on and arent on speaking terms, get your money, and not to mention the truck money he never gave you so i would take that as a sign to take the ring money... Good luck darlin
2006-11-04 14:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by hermiasdeath 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That necklace has YOUR name written all over it! It has been 6 years for crying out loud....get the necklace! He don't want the ring...get something you will use and enjoy with the money from the ring....it would look real nice with what you're wearing to church tomorrow! LOL...Go get it!
2006-11-04 14:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
since he didnt want it after you two split and he sold the truck that you paid half for and kept the money then your entiltle to the whole amont if you decide to sell the ring so i would go for the necklace
2006-11-04 15:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by tasha123us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Return it. It's not what it cost or can be gained by selling it. It was given out of love, return it with the same respect it was given with. Your heart and mind will be clear and thank you later. Really shows class and respect to the man you love now also.
2006-11-04 15:04:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋