does this mean I need to have sex with him all the time when ever he asks me to?
2006-11-04 06:39:15 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It also says for the husbands to love their wives as themselves.
So if a wife doesn't want to have sex and the husband makes her or places a guilt trip on her then he is NOT loving her as the Bible says.
It's a two way street. Many try to take one verse from the Bible to confirm their wants and desires...the Bible can't be read like that!
The Bible also says that we were given a sex drive to benefit our spouse, not ourselves. God did not make sex to be a selfish act, but rather a selfless act. WE are to place the others needs above our own. So if we place the others needs above our own, we wouldn't force another into sex to meet our own needs and desires.
So with all that said, Sex, according to the Bible is a gift to the married couple and should be used as a means of connecting intimately. This can't be done if one of the partners is not interested at that time.
However,sex is important and gives us the greatest connections possible if both parters are willing and ready.
2006-11-04 10:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by Cjs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually this is a christian misconception, the bible does say that women must submit to their men but this is geared towards desitions that the man has made as far as the household is concerned, in other words not to go against a desition that the man has already made. ie. If the man say we will go grocery shopping on friday don't go on thursday just to take the contrary to what he decided.
As far as sex is concerned the what the bible says is that sex is the RIGHT of the woman and the RESPONSIBILITY of the man, and it goes further saying that the man must be alert for any indications that the woman wants sex and/or affection and she should not have to ask. THe bible also says that there are 3 things that man must always provide to his wives in equal amounts and it can never decrease: food, clothing and affection. Now it is a huge sin to deny sex to one's partner to punish the other, or to have sex while drunk, angry or quarreling. Sex is not only permissible by the bible but also encouraged between spouses for affection, lust and procreation, not that procreation is last.
You are probably wondering where in the bible this can be found, well unfortunately for christians this was part of thebunch of stuff the powers at be edited from its original version.
There is more in it, it gets very specific it even has a part dedicated to foreplay and recomended poetry to bring the woman to want to have sex.
Hope it helps and if you have any questions please feel free to im me.
2006-11-04 14:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by ttepinzon 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you're missing the point. What the Bible is trying to say is that the man should be the head of the household. He should have integrity and responsibility. He should protect and provide for his wife and children. He should guide and be strict with them regarding what is right and moral. He should be a man worthy of being looked up to.
A woman's place is to be at his side. To help him be strong and decent. She should submit to his will because only one person can be the head of the household. It does not mean she is abused or not as intelligent. She loves and respects him and knows he will do what is best for the family. He honors and loves and respects her. He would not ask her to do anything that would hurt her physically or emotionally, harm their relationship with each other or God or harm their children.
Unfortunately, it is very very hard to find a man worthy of that position. It can certainly be abused and is But, I believe that was the original concept of marriage.
The roles of men and women have become grossly mixed up over the millenia. Personally, I still believe in this concept and I believe that I have found the man worthy of my trust and faith.
2006-11-04 14:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by Dovie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he is your husband you should be making love not just having sex. You do not have to have sex all the time when he feels like it. There has to be common feelings of desire to make it right.
You are not owned by him and you should be making your own decisions about things that effect your body.....
You should be involved in the act and feeling like it is a wonderful union between the two of you... Being pressured into having sex is not fulfilling and you will resent him.
That is a literal translation from the bible.... you can still be a good wife and christian and not be a slave to him....He has to respect you enough to take your feelings into consideration.
2006-11-04 14:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. But hopefully you will want to have sex with your husband because you love him and find him attractive. But if he is not good to you then you probably won't. It's more important to have a good relationship rather than just "submit."
2006-11-04 14:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important to be sexually generous to your spouse... that doesn't mean you should always say yes, but try to compromise and take care of him as best you can. Most women don't understand how important sex is to a guy. Remember, he is doing his best to be a good man for you, and he fights his biology all the time to remain faithful. If he can't have sex with other women, and he can't have sex with you either, is that fair?
2006-11-04 14:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by Heidi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, it says in the bible husbands should love their wives as much as jesus christ loved the church & only then will u be able 2 submit 2 him & by that it doesn't mean have sex when he wants u 2...it means that u should love him & treat him as an equal just as he should w/ u!
2006-11-04 14:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by bbball luvr_007 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. The Bible also says that the man should treat his wife as himself. He would not put any unreasonable demand on himself, therefore he should be loving towards you and not "demand" sex from you. He should be considerate of your feelings.
2006-11-05 00:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by Inquiring Mind 19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not about domination but a husband loves his wife like his own flesh.
Religions including Christianity use this as an excuse to belittle women.
Christ is the head of the husband
God is the head of Christ
best that husbands emulate their superior authorities.
A husband repects and loves his wife over himself and takes responsibility. If the roles of husband and wife were taken as God intended the relationship is beautiful.
men will use this to lord over in their marriage and treat wives like furniture which is completely wrong and ungodly and spiteful.
2006-11-04 14:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by Spadesboffin 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It means NOTHING. This is 2006, OK? No woman has to submit to anyone but herself. Just do whatever you want. If your husband doesn't like it, screw 'em.
2006-11-04 23:23:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋