I am working abroad. I was conned by a shop in Dubai and have spent 3 weeks trying to get my money back but did not want to worry my wife at home, so did not tell her until I had to resort to getting the police involved. She now says I breached a trust and is moving out. Was she right? Or is she using this as an excuse to get me out?
2006-11-04 06:30:40 · 26 answers · asked by superman in disguise 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me there could of been some previous breach of trust issues between the two of you. So therefore this last one was the straw that broke the camels back.
If no previous trust issues then I would say that there is more to this than the wife is admitting.
It is hard when you are miles apart eh?
Perhaps ask her to reconsider until you return at which time you both can reunite over dinner perhaps and to give you a chance to explain the whole thing, at the very least. Tell her that you miss her and love her don't forget.
2006-11-04 06:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by opinionative_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was just waiting for an excuse, any excuse she could use, even one as small as this. she talks about trust issues , usually when a spouse accuses us of something, it is them that is doing it. i would say she has found someone else and it would have happened anyway even had you not had this problem with the money.seems like it is quite a rash thing to do, and we don't understand why, and over such a trivial matter, but there are other reasons why, and it has to do with her cheating on you.
2006-11-04 15:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems like an overreaction on your wife's part. Have there been other trust / money problems? Have you told her the whole story?
if you want to keep her you need to tell her exactly what happened and explain that you didn't want to worry her - and promise that you won't deceive her again. It may take time for her to forgive you but it's worth a try.
2006-11-04 15:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have told your wife everything that was going on when it was going on. I can see why she is angry, but that is no excuse to move out. She may be thinking you met another lady. Continue to try to contact her to let her know this is not the case (hopefully it really isn't) and try to get home ASAP. If you have no reasons to think she has a hidden agenda...keep trying to explain it. Hope it all works out.
2006-11-04 14:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have disclosed such an important issue from her is a dishonest and a marriage is all about communication. I understand her being angry and feeling betrayed BUT leaving you is a bit too much.
Are you sure that is the only thing that has happend? It is a bit suspicious.
Maybe in those 3weeks something has changed for her...
2006-11-04 14:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but it appears she is using this as an excuse so there must be another reason. No wife would ever move out over such a reason so you should confront her!!!
2006-11-04 14:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have told her what was going on but that is no reason for her to want to move out so ther e is more than likely another reason behind it. She was just waiting for you to mess up one time and she was going to do this. You should talk to her and ask her what is really going on because this was not a big enough issue for her to want to move out.
2006-11-04 14:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excuse
2006-11-04 14:33:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think she's using that as an excuse. Sure, you should have told her, but you didn't do anything REALLY bad that would justify her moving out. She's hiding something from you.
2006-11-04 14:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but if you love someone and are in a good marriage, you get angry, furious even but you work things out together. If she's not prepared to do that, then let her go,
2006-11-04 14:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋