i have gone thru so much with my hubby´s family,,,finnally i confronted them..his sister threatened me with my ñife when i got upset and told her off to respect me...his mother told me i married to have someone pay my bills(i do work),...finnally i decide to stay away...my husband is upset with that though from the beginning he stode aside....he never corrected them or ask them why they were behaving that way......i refused to attend any of their family things...im i right? im only avoiding trouble.
2006-11-04 06:21:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When your husband does not respect you enough, to allow his family to mistreat you, or take up for you against them, I think you are well within your rights not to go back. I don't go places I'm not wanted, or that I'm mistreated, and neither should you. If he doesn't stand up for you, it will cause problems in your marriage. His loyalty should be to you.....you're his WIFE! He left his family to marry you, and should act like it! Good Luck!!
2006-11-04 06:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your having problems. Inlaws can be hard to deal with at times. Ultimately, you have to understand that this is your hubby's family and as much as you may not want too, it's important that you try to iron things out. His family and you have to come to an agreement on respecting each other. THat doesn't mean you have to be friends, hang out with them all the time or even like them. It just means that you're on decent enough terms to be coridal to each other and can be in the same room without trying to kill each other. It's such a strain not only on you but on your husband and his family when things are out of whack like this. It makes things awkard especially if kids are involved. You don't want your kids not to have a relationship with his family because of the beef you have with them. Also, what about the holidays - is it fair to your kids or even your husband to feel as if they can't see that side of the family? Be the bigger person and try to work things out - that's what I had to do, and so far it's worked.
2006-11-04 14:34:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your post was a little hard for me to understand, but it sounds like your husbands family is a bunch of idiots. I would stay away from them. You married your husband, not them.
2006-11-04 14:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, stay away from them. And I can't believe that you're husband didn't set his family straight. I would demand that of him.
2006-11-04 14:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why be around people that has no respect for you .... i would avoid them too ... and your husband where are his balls????
2006-11-04 14:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by common sense 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋