She wants a divorce after 1 yr, is she going to regret this and change her mind in a year when this is over?

Question

My wife of 1 yr decided that she was never in love with me. She says she loves me but isn't "in love" anymore. She still calls me her best friend, we love each other's families, we share the same morals and dreams. We are both attracted to each other and both work so money isn't an issue. She isn't willing to work on things and says she is having "crushes" on other people and feels guilty about it. After a difficult month of fighting for her I am ready to let her go find these things out for herself and give her the divorce. My question is, is this common in new marriages? Is she going to regret this in one year when she finds that know one else is going to give her what we have? Or does this sound final? She seems pretty set on this which is uncharacteristic of her. Just looking for some hope maybe.

Answer 1

you need to communicate how u feel, but at the same time if they don't want us we have to let them go. it is not that common in new marriages. i think she has found someone else, and thinks they are what she wants, but in reality she will just be going through this over and over again in life. she has all these expectations and thinks she has found mr. perfect, little does she know there is no mr. perfect, or knight in shining armour. but it is much easier to move on now, than wait until after children are born, than u are tied to them forever. give her the divorce quit trying to make sense out of someone that's not sensible. seems fighting for someone really serves no purpose at all, cause the problem is not really about u, it's that she has fallen for someone else. go with dignity my friend, and she will most certinly feel the pain when she sees u have moved on, when she sees u with a new love. she will remember how good she had it and will mostlikely wish she were back with you. but we can't focus on tomorrow, or the past, we have only today, and if someone told me they weren't in love with me anymore, i would not want to be with them, because i would have more respect for myself. the more u try the worse it will be for u, stop trying to keep someone who loves, or thinks she loves another, let her go.

Answer 2

Although I don't think this is "common", A friend of my husbands went through a very similar situation. He was married about a year and a half, when one day his wife just decided she didn't want to be married anymore, felt guilty about the things she wanted to do, similar to your wife's "crushes". He didn't understand it at all, and honestly neither did I. Even though the first year of marriage you are newlyweds and so in love, they say it is the hardest part. I think you are possibly right in thinking that she may regret leaving this marriage, but the truth is you cant have a happy, healthy marriage if you can't share your life with your spouse. If she isn't willing to do this, or to "work on things" with you, you need to let her go. You need her to give as much to you as you do to her and it sounds like she isn't ready to do that. All I can say is let her know, really let her know what this marriage means to you and that you want it to work, that you meant the words you said to her on that day and that you believed that she did too. Let her know how much you love her. I'm sure you have already done these things, but that's all I can see for you to do. Best wishes for your happiness.

Answer 3

She sounds immature. Maybe she expected the honeymoom to go on forever, but they rarely do. And some immature people do have these reactions quite early in a marriage when they miss the fun of single life. Why not suggest to her that she leaves your home and makes a life for herself for a year, without divorcing. In that time she may see the error of her ways, if not - or if, in the meantime, you decide you don't want to reconcile - you can go ahead with a divorce.

Answer 4

It doesn't sound like she's ready to be tied down to one person yet. And to answer your question: No, this is NOT common in all marriages. It's only common to those who have commitment issues such as your wife. I suggest u let her go and give her the divorce she's asking for. There is no point in fighting for someone who doesn't see things your way.

Answer 5

Nothing is hopeless with Jesus. All you have to do is begin to treat your wife as special as you did the time you began to pursue her. For help with this visit www.lightyourfire.com and make sure your speakers are attached and turned on. There is a free 45 minute audio, and 22 minute video that will change your life, if you are interested in saving your marriage Captain. God Bless, and may your preparation meet this opportunity

Answer 6

This is NOT common in marriages, especially after only one year.

You can still remain friends, but why don't you let her go so that you can find someone who will be happy to share their life with you?

Answer 7

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LAST BUT NOT LEAST **** IT MAN YOUR A MAN LIKE ME ONE OF THE BOYS SHE HURT YA DUDE **** HER...HEY MAN IT DIDN'T WORK IF YOU HAVE AN ATTITUDE " IT JUST DIDN'T WORK SO WHAT" YOU'LL BE ABLE TO MOVE ON AND THE MORE YOU LOOK AT WHAT YOU DO HAVE THE BETTER OFF YOU'LL BE I BEEN THROUGHT IT 2 TIMES HAVE TWO KIDS RAISE THEM BOTH MYSELF...MAN YOU GOT TOMORROW AND THE NEXT DAY AND THE NEXT...ITS ALL GOOD BROTHER JUST TAKE IT FROM OL TIM

Answer 8

She has found Mr. Right and you are the mistake. Give her her walking papers. She's probably no more in tune with reality now than she was when she married you.