Okay, so I'm in middle school (6th grade) and I hang out with this group of 7 girls.EVERYONE in the group only cares about them, and I feel like im being left out. Like for instance, This girl Bailey that's in the group got sick right? Well everyone was all "OMG bailey are you okay, how do you feel, are you alright?" And my damn grandpa died that day, and my brother went to Iraq 2 days later, I told them that and they didn't care! I'm not trying to get attention, but how come all they care about is themselves and leave me out? What should I do?
2006-11-04 05:33:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Even adults have the same issues. Its hard when 2 or more are friends in the same group. If 3 are in the same group 1 always feel's left out. I know exactly how you feel. I agree with some of the other opinions here about that you should find another friend. Honestly I'm not even sure that they would even notice that you left them. Since it doesn't sound like they are paying much attention to you.
Ask yourself these questions and it will help you to decide if you need new friends or not
(years of experience)
1) Do they call you and ask you what you want to do?
2) Do you make all the plans for your group or do they make all the plans for the group? If they make all the plans and not you, Its time for a change. Friendship is a two way street not a one way street.
3) Do they ask you about how your day is and take turns with you about what you are going thru in your day? (in other words do they hog the conversation or not)
4) Are they negative or possitive talkers.
5) Do they include you in the activities they do?
Honestly if anyone of these answer's are no, Its ok to switch to new friends. Even if you have been with these friends for a while. Maybe find a group that you can make an even number too.
Or you can talk to one of the other girls first to tell her how you feel first if you'd like to before switching groups to see about if you would like to switch groups first. To see if they are really your friends.
2006-11-04 09:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in 6th grade too ... and i have the same problem .. they only care about the like 3-5 ppl in the group that are really popular. i knoe.... i just shake if off and u should do the same ....good luck! =]
2006-11-04 13:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by always_here_37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are young girls, they can not deal with huge issues like a death ot a family member, leaving to go to Iraq. a belly ache is an aspirin issue. put your self in their place, and you may understand, they just need to mature a bit more , and I am truly sorry for your problems. maybe go and see a school councellor. they can help you
2006-11-04 13:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for other friends. I'm pretty sure you are in the group of the "pupular" sissy and posh girls that don't really care. The more "unpopular" care more about you. Trust me
2006-11-04 13:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by J&B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should get some new friends. You should only be friends with people who care about you, your family, and your problems. I know it might be hard, but it'll probably pay off and you'll be happier.
2006-11-04 13:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by Elli 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ditch them and get a new group of friends. Friend are suppose to be there for you always and if there not then get rid of them
2006-11-04 13:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by LilMissYady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find real friends. You said yourself that they don't care therefore what are they good for? Friends should console friends.
2006-11-04 13:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋