She is not with me, I just found out recently and pending a paternal test I am taking responcibilty. I don't really knowthis woman too well so my family would have to meet her and get to know here too.
2006-11-04 05:13:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I feel that depends on how close you are with your family. If you arent close, then you can wait until the tests proves whether or not you are the babies father. If you are close with your family, then you may want to go ahead and let them know that a girl that you slept with is pregnant, but that you plan to take a paternity test because you are unsure that you are the father. This way, you can spare yourself the guilt of keeping a secret from your family, and hopefully spare your family from feeling that you hid something from them for so long. Some families, like ours, share almost everything about our own lives. My husbands family is very different. Each member has their own very private/personal lives. When you do tell them, be ready for some serious feedback. Try to take it with a "grain of salt". Just let them feel how they are going to feel, and let them have ample time to take everything in. Everything will turn out for the best.
Good Luck!
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2006-11-04 05:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by marissa w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow okay I personally feel that if you are unsure that the baby is yours. If possible try and wait for the results before you get the family involved. I think if the situation turned out that the baby wasnt yours and you introduced this girl and your unknown baby to be to your family it would just make things a bit difficult. So if you can wait til the results thats what I would suggest. If not then you should try and wait as long as possible. Maybe you can introduce her as a friend "now" so it wouldnt be much of a shock, when the time comes to introduce her as the potential mother of your unborn child. I mean the truth of the matter is even if the situation happened where you already introduced her and your unborn and you find out later that its not your baby. It happens all the time a women plants a baby on a man that she thinks is his. So at least it'll almost be understanding if that situation happens. But if its avoidable I would do just that.
Good Luck hope this helped!
2006-11-04 13:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by collins2004_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old saying,,,, "Old enough to do the crime, Old enough to do the time." I would tell them now so they can get used to the idea. If you really do not think it is yours then I would wait till the test is back to introduce her to your family. They can do paternity tests now while the female is pregnant with an amnio, that way you would know before the baby is born. Good luck and if you are the father --- remember this baby did not ask to be here either,, so give it the best father you can be.... !!!!
2006-11-04 13:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by Karlee bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go ahead and tell them now. But I would also let them know of the circumstances and that there will be a paternity test. That way you don't look quite as irresponsible. It won't quite as much of a shock to them that way when it is announced whether or not you are the father. Your family will be supportive as long as you are honest.
Good Luck!
2006-11-04 13:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sahould tell them when you find out it is yours. Then you know for sure that the baby is yours. Because if you tell them now and the baby ends up not being yours then there could be some broken hearts involved... Let them know though that you might be a father but you will let them know when the time comes. Goodluck
2006-11-04 13:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once paternity has been established, then you can tell whoever you want that the baby's yours. If you let people know ahead of time, it will put you in an awkard possition if the baby isn't yours in the end. Think about it!
2006-11-04 13:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by jackie_jackie_bo_backie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them when YOU feel you have sufficent time to think things over, think over ideas, thoughts, etc. You have 9 months until the baby is born, so I would make things right within yourself before you tell your family, as they could be very helpful,but they also may complicate matters. Good luck
2006-11-04 13:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by dumpsterdd90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are the dad i would tell your family immediately. I am sure they'd still want to know who their grandchild is....I am sure it#ll turn out fine if all parties involved are mature and responsible. Gotta do what is in the best interest for the baby...
2006-11-04 13:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by modernlifeisrubbish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I would wait until you know this child is yours for sure, the reason is because your family may get really excited, and then come to find out it is not yours it might hurt them. It's up to you, but I think as soon as you find out the sooner is best!
2006-11-04 13:20:13 · answer #9 · answered by jlil_shortie143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think as soon as you know its yours. Your family will have a reason to like her then. I think its really good your taking responsibility, not many men do.
2006-11-04 13:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋