Hi i have been married 2 1/2 years now and am 22 years old i do P.R work and am always really busy my husband 23 is in med. school student . We never see each other at all anymore. The first year of our marriage was like a dream but now we dont even have sex its been almost 5 months since we last did it.Whenever i see him he's asleep or studying. I have asked him to support me and come take a break for some of my events but he says its not his style says clubs/partys are too loud?He even ignores me when i try to talk about relationship stuff cant be bothered.I am attracted to another guy he is 26yrs old, a small time producer/promoter/ex. D.J and we see each other around a lot and hang out sometimes and go eat.I feel guilty because i like him alot and now he likes me but i'm married.I dont feel in love with my husband anymore?what do i do?
2006-11-04 04:49:00 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have even tried to go meet my husband to a extra credit lecture as a suprise but he got irrated and said i was a distraction?
2006-11-04 04:51:18 · update #1
I have tried telling him and i make an effort leaving notes that say i love you and trying to cook his favorite meal .
2006-11-04 04:55:25 · update #2
He was not a med. student when we married
2006-11-04 05:07:04 · update #3
Well, my advise will depend on what you want. Do you love the 26 yr old so much that you cannot live without him? Or, will you do "anything" to salvage your marriage? If the answer is the first one, go ahead - get a divorce, marry the 26 yr old and, hopefully, live happily ever after. However, if you do want to save your marriage, create situations to make the doctor-to-be jealous. You two should go see the movie "Break Up" - give him a "brazilian" treat. Good luck!
2006-11-04 05:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by thunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember for better or worse
just because you two are busy that does not mean you don'tlove him and this other guy what make you think that he is better a small time pruducer/promoter/xDJ
he already have an X in his C.V
you knew before you married that he was going to med school
I am presuming that you smart you know that it is a lot of work
so talk to him, make special time for one another that have nothing to do with your work
ask him to give you one day a week it can be dinner or lunch
you said that he does not support you well it seems that you don't support each other
once that change your relatonship will get better
now you will have to learn to be patient
Good luck
2006-11-04 05:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he isn't willing to participate in the marriage then you should consider seeing a counselor. At this time, your careers are preventing you from being a couple. Being a med student is stressful with all the studying and work he probably has to do. Your career keeps you busy all the time. Personally, I don't believe in divorce. I think you two can make it work if you both try hard enough. Instead of going out with another man, keep trying with your husband. I know this new man is giving you attention that you aren't getting from your husband, but your making things worse by being with another man. You should be with your husband. Good Luck
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2016-04-22 10:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is really busy with school, he is not interested in you anymore, he doesn't care either way, or he is cheating. Why don't you try one more time. Ask him: "Do you want to be with me? Do you still want to be married? I have tried to talk to you but it doesn't work, I made your favorite meal, you don't care, you don't want to have sex, and you said I was a distraction when I came to one of your medical presentations. I don't know what else to do ." If he doesn't talk to you then, you know it should be over. If he says he is sorry or talks to you about it, that would be great. If he talks to you but then nothing changes, I would consider leaving the relationship also. You can always have a separation for a while also. Good luck.
2006-11-04 05:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by steffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She DOES need to answer for what she did, but it needs to be your choice whether or not you "hand her over" to the check cashing place. You are the one that will have to live with your decision one way or the other, so it needs to be something you can be comfortable with. If I were in your shoes, and this wasn't a first-time event, I would really have to evaluate whether or not my spouse was committed to me the way I was to her. The only way I can see something like this working is if your wife agrees to get some serious help. Staying with her does not mean keeping her crimes a secret. It can mean standing by her while she answers for what she has done, remaining by her side as she gets the help she needs.
2016-03-19 03:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya what happens is when you marry too young you and the other person tend to grow apart, I wouldn't give up or cheat mind you but maybe get his attention some how and tell him you're not happy, I had the same prob with my man, it 's tough the first couple of years but...you can do it....seriously tho you need to have sex, i think that's what hurting you guys
Oh just read your Additional....Honey it sounds like it's him, maybe you guys have grown apart, do you at least share the same goals?
2006-11-04 04:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should separate for awhile and try counseling, it takes two to make a marriage work and if he's not willing to make the effort then it's time to leave. The attraction b/w the other guy only occurred because your husband wasn't giving you the attention that you need. So try to convince him to work things out and if that doesn't work then its time to get out of the relationship.
2006-11-04 04:58:39 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you got married you knew he was a med student.... You knew he would be stressed both by lack of sleep and by never ending academics. And you too work. Yet you married him anyway. For love you say...well if it was for love..doesn't he deserve your patience?
If you think so little of the committment you made to each other that you would consider exchanging affection with another man... and a DJ at that... (wow what a career that is), then maybe you should just divorce your hubby. He certainly deserves to have a wife that loves him and understand his demands...
How shallow can you be?
2006-11-04 05:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋