my dad thinks that "All homo's should be put in prison". For heavens sake, i've been dropping hints for years in the hope that they'd deduce this for themselves... George Michael t-shirts, Dancing classes, a pet dog, but they just can't take a hint. What should i do?
2006-11-04 04:12:17 · 24 answers · asked by t.dl2002 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If your parents are homophobic, no hint in the world is going to get through to them.
You may as well just tell them, it will never be a good time. Be prepared for rejection.
2006-11-04 04:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must seriously consider: what is the absolutely worst thing that will happen as a result of me telling my parents I am gay? I speak from experience. I told mine back in 1972 when I was 20 years and did not follow this advice. It was devastating (and it sounds as if you have a father who is very narrowminded, so this could be very sticky indeed.) I should have never assumed that they would be comfortable with it, but really, their negative reaction blew me away. It took years to heal the wounds. Both my parents are now deceased. They eventually accepted, but never wholeheartedly approved of, my lifestyle.
If you have an ally in a relative or close friend to whom you can turn, or contact with a support group like PFlag (where you are your parents may eventually have to end up together), you will be doing yourself a great favor. My prayers go out to you in this courageous, important step you are taking in your life.
2006-11-04 13:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by crowbird_52 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a T-shirt that you can buy that says "I am not gay, but my boyfriend is". Wear it around your parents and they will get the hint. If that doesn't work have sex with another guy in front of them. LOL!!!! In all seriousness there is an organization called PFLAG, which means...parents & friends of lesbians & gays. Contact them and they will help you. It is a wonderful organization and they have a high success rate. It's free.
2006-11-04 12:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry...sounds like your dad is going to be really closed minded about this. I have a cousin who told his dad a few years back, and his dad stopped talking to him for quite a while!..He talks to him now..but it took awhile for him to relies his son has his own right to make himself happy with whoever he wants. It's always been an mystery to me why some people think of gays as wrong or demented etc. Your with someone that fulfil you..makes you happy..that is what should mater ..not the what gender you are with.
Just tell him, so you can carry on living your life..It's your dad that has to sort out his problem with it.
Good luck.
2006-11-04 12:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your dad (especially) is in denial. You know your parents best. You could sit them down in a public place, like an eating establishment, and tell them (a public place can control any outbursts that may happen), or you could just tell them at the kitchen table. Ease them into it, and when I have to give someone BIG news like this, I try to imagine the worst case scenario. That way, anything bad that happens, isn't as bad as it could be.
2006-11-04 12:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but I don't think I could handle my son coming to me to tell me he was gay. I would rather not know. Why do you have to tell them??? Maybe you should just wait until later on in life when your parents could have a better attitude about it. I mean there are alot of people out there who don't tell their parents everything. This might be one of those things...
2006-11-04 13:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by mysticmoonprincess01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Mom, Dad, I have something I want to tell you about myself but I am afraid you will disapprove" Then when they respond explain that is not from thier lack of parenting or anything, it is just who you are. Tell them you understand it might be alot to digest but tell them to remember you are the same person you were before you told them you were gay and they loved you then, so they should still love you the same now.
2006-11-04 12:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by brandonwitt226 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not exactly sure how old you are...but in the long run it's always best to be honest with yourself & those around you. For good or bad, tell them. At least you can then be yourself and know where you stand.
2006-11-04 12:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by Rance D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get some advice from people who have been in your shoes. Most of people in your situation who are gay have all had to tell their parents and they seem to have made it so seek out their advice.
2006-11-04 12:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are that thick then don't bother telling them because you could probably make out with your boyfriend on the couch and tell them you were wrestling.
2006-11-04 13:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋