I have had this friend for 5 years and I really don't want to be her friend anymore. She doesn't have any other friends and its because she has issues. I mean she yells when she talks instead of talking. She is always negative when anything goes wrong. Instead of being postive to help me. Whenever something goes wrong I don't want to call her. She makes me feel worse.I have tryied to talk to her about it but at her age that is the way she is.The only reason I am still her friend is because of my daughter. My little girl is 4 and loves my friend. I don't want to have my daughter around her sometimes. But I don't know how to explain to my daughter why she acts like she does. I only started being her friend because she is a relative to my daughter's dad. What would you do????
2006-11-04 04:05:41 · 5 answers · asked by kira 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You don't want your daughter around at times, so that gives you the perfect reason to be an acquaintance instead of friend. Besides, is she refuses to support you in the way you need a friend to, she isn't a friend.
Since you know she isn't your best friend, let her be a friend in name only and cultivate new friendships. Be kind and tolerant when around her to keep peace in the family.
It's really hard, but you must take care of yourself and your child.
2006-11-04 04:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly whay you mean, I have had two friends like this. Trust me they never change - I got rid of my two by simply not making contact with them and when they do 'pop' around uninvited ofcourse (well in my case) I felt sorry for these two old friends of mine but they were making me feel bad all the time so how could they be my friend? you have done your best I believe by trying to discuss the situation ( something that my age of maturity of the time wouldn't even consider. If they didn't listen it is because they didn't want to hear, and if they don't want to hear then they will not. I am reunited with one of my once obsessive annoying friends now she has done well for herself now she is due to be married october and has a great job and life. The other one I dont know, your friend wouldn't happen to be named Michelle would she (just kidding) anyway I booted these two out of my life in a subtle way because they were damaging to me, if I had a child at the time I would be brutally honest, explain to your daughter that your friend is like chocolate and only good in moderation. If your friend truley cares for your child make a one month play date where you, your daughter, and your friend who is now (thanks to your suggestion) volunteering to take foster children out for the weekend!!! if this is to much try a letter perhaps, hope I have been a little help
2006-11-04 12:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by ym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I had a friend, or was it more like a close associate, well hang about, no that wasn't quite right...more of an passing familiarity. Damn it, at any rate..I killed them, buried their respective organs in Tupperware boxes in a local park and taunted their parents with random notes cut from newspaper clippings.
Sorry if that was a little vague- sometimes I send out a Powerpoint presentation to folks like you with an inability to make tough decisions. HAve you considere rat-poison?
Hang on...this is the wrong work group, so sorry! Must be going...
2006-11-04 12:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by RHJ Cortez 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can tell her straight forward that you do not want to hang out with her anymore, or you can little by little alienate from her until you don't talk much anymore. Your daughter is young and she will forgive and forget. You can get your daughter to be distracted with other things as well.
2006-11-04 12:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by jasonheavilin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O man...I had the EXACT same problem, besides the fact that i dont have children. Its a tough one, I just started ignoring her, it hurts but its the inly way. You cannot change the person, ive tried and plus its kind of wrong.
2006-11-04 12:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋