2006-11-04 03:47:30 · 15 answers · asked by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the best way to make up with a friend is give them time, you and your friends need time to cool down and think. You shou;ldn't start over, friends fight it's heatlhy and just think it took you a long time to make that friend, would you really want to lose them over saying things you probably didn't mean. Also if your having a fight that means you getting things out in the open which is good anbd also that means there is substance between you as well, but if thsi frineds is being mean on purpose pull the plug, but if not then stay, it may seem bad now but it will get better.
2006-11-04 04:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by nathan920ca 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk. Listen. Great advice from Loody - meet up in a good memory-place, and tell them that they mean a lot to you and you don't want to have any bad feeling between you. Listen without speaking while they speak. Put your side across if you are then able to do so. Ultimately if there's no agreement to be reached, join with them in the fun of your friendship and agree that the disagreement is just something you disagree on - friends can do that, and still be friends - and move on. Great advice from MonNog about saying something goofy to make them laugh, but if at the start they're feeling bruised or tender, their sense of humour may not be firing on all cylinders, so I'd go the listening route until you get to a point where you've invoked some good memories and shared some listening time. Then the goofy stuff should help bring you right back on balance with your friend.
2006-11-05 10:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by mdfalco71 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No good friendship goes without disagreements. And the best friends you'll ever have are the ones who will get through these with you.
I know how tough it is though to break the ice after some time has elapsed after some heat and I've found that the best way for me to do this would be to mention something about the disagreement- i.e. "I know you ruined my favorite pink bunny slippers when you barfed all over them, but it's over with. It doesn't change how much I care about you and it's certainly not worth losing you as a friend. I can replace them but I can't replace you.... btw you did look cute in them..." Something to show that whatever the argument was about was not worth losing their friendship. Hope this helps.
2006-11-04 17:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by Antny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't have an answer thats why this question is on my watch list. good question
but i picked up some college sociology book at a yard sale and it says that the first step in a break down of any type of relation ship is differentiating which occurs when two people start emphasizing their indivdual differences instead of their similarities.
so the disagreement started the differtiating so just focus on something else and forget about it thats the only thing i can think of doing
2006-11-04 10:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by dachshund_lord 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the first mistake was letting a disagreement be the end of a friendship. Adults agree to disagree, and move on with the important things in life...
2006-11-04 03:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Deliver a bucket of ice, with a hammer attached to it. Plus a little note saying that you want to break the ice agian and stay freinds! Wrap it nice to look like it came from the florest. Professional! God I'm good!
2006-11-04 04:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Baskin Robbins gift certificate has mended more friendships than what most people will admit. Nothing says "lets put the crap behind us" like an ice cream.
2006-11-04 15:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by Jujeaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine you having friends without a sense of humor...so...I recommend saying something nonsensical. Call or visit your friend and say something like..."I like pork butt. Do you have any pork butt?" Obviously your friend would laugh and the "ice" would therefore be broken. Then take said "broken ice" put it into a high ball glass, pour in your favorite beverage (I hear mello yello is good) give the friend a hug and begin anew.
2006-11-05 02:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by gotalife 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I go to them and say...."let's talk it out"
I try not to be judgemental about any issues that are brought up. I think it is important that both sides feel comfortable in expressing themselves.
I prefer the direct approach. Works for me.
The person who is wrong should have the courage to admit it and also apologize.
2006-11-04 15:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
invite ur friend to meet u in a place where you both have a very pleasant memory or event
2006-11-04 03:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by loody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋