I am currently 8mths pregnant but since my pregnancy started....?

Question

my husband has not had sex or even been intimate with me ( kissing, hugging etc) and yesterday i found a condom wrapper in his working pants pocket when i was washing them i dont want to think the worst but what should i do?/

Answer 1

look its 2 things 1st ur pregnant so don’t take strain it will b harm full to u and baby 2nd trust on ur husband and give her more and more love and one more thing he is father of ur baby and new baby will change him always think positive

Answer 2

Try to be calm and think about the situation. Some men have problems being intimate with a woman when she is pregnant. Was your husband eager to have the baby? If he was not then there are a whole lot of issues involved.

Your first concern is to have a healthy baby - which means cutting down on stress for you. Sometimes it is just better not to confront the man until later. Concentrate on the baby and your health and right now you need your husband's help. After the birth of the baby you can show him the condom and ask him to explain; then you can decide what you want to do and if you should stay with your husband.

As ridiculous as it seems; there may actually be a valid explanation for the condom in the pocket but get him to explain later after you have the baby and you are both in good health.

However, if I were you I would not have relations with the man until you resolve this issue between you.

Answer 3

Uhhhh, what do you think? OBVIOUSLY something is wrong here. I understand why a man wouldn't want to have sex with an 8 month pregnant woman (there could be health risks and sometimes men do not know that you can still be intimate at that time - you just need to "do things" differently.) HOWEVER, there is no reason he cannot be sweet and affectionate towards you. Hun, this is the stereotypical-strait line-textbook sign of cheating. There is no excuse for him to have a condom wrapper in his pocket. I would say that he is busted, 100%. There really is no way for him to cover it up... you already know. Shame on him!

Answer 4

I'm not really sure what other conclusion you could come to. Some guys do have a hangup about having sex with their partner during pregnancy, but considering the little gem you found in his pants pocket strongly suggests that he's not just waiting patiently until after the baby arrives.

The only real solution is to flat out tell him what you found and ask him to explain himself. If he's telling you the truth, he will be able to look you in the eye. When people lie, their eyes will flutter or they will look upward to the left (sometimes the right). And, if he gets immediately defensive, that's a huge red warning flag.

I think you will be able to work through this, but everything has to get out on the open, and confronting him is really the only way.

Answer 5

Usually men find their spouses/significant others the most appealing when they are pregnant..so it seems odd that he is seeking intimacy elsewhere. Unless he is using condoms while masterbating..I would confront him about the condom wrapper (which I hope you kept as evidence)..I hope for the best since you have a baby on the way..that he isn't having an affair. Buenos Suertes

Answer 6

Say, "honey, I was washing your clothes and I found a condom wrapper in your pocket. Why did you have a condom wrapper in your pocket?"

You don't have to say it judgmentally...in fact, don't say it that way. Just plainly ask the question. And you'll just have to see what happens after that.

Answer 7

unacceptable!!! i mean you and he know you dont exactly need protection.demand an explanation and before he opens his mouth,,let him know if he says they are a friends,you and he are in trouble.some men do go off on a tangent when their wives are pregnant but cheating isnt something he cannot stop himself doing,,yes,,he may be worried about harming the baby during sex,,it is possible he doesnt find you attractive,,im sorry if that hurts and i mean no disrespect but it happens,,but this too,doesnt make him lose control of his underwear,,he has an option as we all do,to say what is on his mind,,he had an option to say he doesnt want a baby before you and he got pregnant,he doesnt have to be carrying condoms and he doesnt need to be so complacent as to forget they are there and forget who washes the clothes,,,,this must really be breaking your heart and you dont need stress like this,,it isnt good for you or the baby.have an honest heart to heart and say what is on your mind,,tell him you accept nothing less from him but the truth.

Answer 8

Hello - I fell that you should down with him at a good time and
discuss this. You should tell him. I truly don't belive in hiding
feelings its not good! Tell him the way you feel. You need to have an open relationship now that you havea baby on the way.
If you can't discuss things now, -- you will never be able to.
My advice to you to get things started, go out to eat (your favorite
restaurant) keep the mood simple but, direct.
So, Good luck !!!

Answer 9

He is a pretty callous sucker for leaving a condom wrapper in his pocket. Either that or stupid. What you should do is flash that puppy in his face and point to your belly! Tell him get the clue Mister, obviously this wasn't used on me!

Answer 10

it seems to me that you need to confront your husband its bad enough you are 8 mths pregnant without the worry that your husband is ****!ng around that is just nasty you need to go to him with what you have found and lay out the proof you have he hasnt had sex with you and there is no reason he needs a condom when hes doing his self so whats up get him before he gives you something because hes not thinking about you are his baby if hes doing this .

Answer 11

If the condom is in his working pants, he's probably (pulling one off) at work. Believe it or not, sex isn't just automatic. From experience, the stress of a new family can affect his 'performance'. Just ask him and if he takes it too negatively just blame it on the hormones. ;)