Hi people....To start with..i dont know what i did is right r wrong...I hapen to know my GF's email passwords(she had told me herself).So i just happened to check her mails out.We had been havin some tension in the relationship for some time now and i have noticed lately that she's double minded about the whole relationship.She cant discuss much about our future together.So when i checked her mails,she had wriiten to a friend of hers that she actually wants SOMEONE in her life but she's so TIRED of it too.She also seems to be keeping the relationship undercover from her friends.I dont know if its worth hanging on to this relationship after knowing at all this r just wait and see wat happens and then make a decision.I dont know what to expect now..plz help.
2006-11-04 03:32:27 · 14 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems like she may have given you her passwords so you could read her mail, and she wouldn't have to tell you how she feels face to face. Looks like she's having doubts about the two of you, and she doesn't have the nerve to tell you.
2006-11-04 03:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means that you're not important to her. People who tends to be afraid of discussing any future w/ someone is somehow afraid also of having commitments. If your gf tends to be unconcern with your future together, it means that she doesn't want to live forever w/ you. But I'm not totally saying that she's like that because I am not into the position to say something about people whom I don't even know. You know what, your girl is into dilemma right now. Better confront her w/ the situation or maybe you can helped her through confrontation. Try to be open minded about her reasons and accept thing and put them into right direction. And also try checking yourself. We just don't know that at the end of this story, it was you who made a mistake. But if you think this relationship will not work out even in a single minute, better part ways as early as one second.
2006-11-04 11:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by ms.tan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't committed to the relationship. You see a future and she doesn't. A big clue is her keeping you apart from her friends. Don't discuss the emails; just talk to her about how you feel.
You really don't want to be the guy she is with because she wants someone there and nothing more.
End the relationship together, as a mutual decision. It will feel better that way.
2006-11-04 11:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by draws_with_crayons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should things work out, you will put the relationship in EXTREME jeopardy if she knows you read her emails. First, do not ever tell her. That will become a trust issue. Next, sit her down and tell her you noticed her duality in ideas about the relationship and tell her in fairness to the both of you, it is time to answer the hard questions so that you both can work together or move on toward what might await you.
2006-11-04 11:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to make a break, she's going to soon if you don't. I think you already know the answer to your question, you're just looking for confirmation of what you already know in your heart. You are not the someone in her life, she's still looking but keeping you until something better comes along. It's cruel I know, but remember there are 5 girls to every guy, get out there and find someone who will bring joy and happiness to you life..and quit setting yourself up by going into someones private emails.
2006-11-04 11:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she feels like you are holding her back from something. Just ask her what she wants from a relationship. The problems is that guys won't change unless we do it for ourselves. So...if you aren't already giving her what she wants, you would be living a lie trying to change to satisfy her needs.
Let her go and find someone that will naturally give her what she wants. There's someone out there more compatible for you.
2006-11-04 11:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Sit down with her and have a chat. It seems you guys just aren't made for each other. It sucks, but this happens a dozen times in your life. You just need to find other people who suit you better. Good luck.
2006-11-04 11:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by meilin h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her what is going on, but maybe she gave you access to her e-mail cause she wanted you to find out that she wants and end to the relationship.
2006-11-04 11:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though she gave you the password doesn't mean she gave you permission to invade her privacy. If you confronted her and told her where you got the info, you may just end up pushing her away....far away. Or she could figure where you got the info and run away.
2006-11-04 11:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
well i would talk to her first...then if she responds in the same way...i would call it quits because she odviously has no feelings for you in that way....i would be very cautious about how to tell her you were in her email...thats almost like a girls diary....it is a very personal place...i know i would be mad....but she gave you the password so she might have wanted you to find out that way instead of her telling you to your face????it is just a talk that you would have to have with her....good luck....
2006-11-04 11:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋