If I found a rolled up dollar bill in my husbands pants pocket, is it safe to assume he is doing coke again?

Question

My husband, drug free for about 60 days, was discovered to have a rolled up dollar bill in his pocket this morning. I'm not stupid and I know what that is used for. And after the strange behaviors last night I'm pretty sure he was on coke. Is it safe to assume that after 2 months he hooked on coke again?

I hate to think the worst, but I told him he had one chance to get clean or I was leaving. He promised, but I don't think he kept his word. I understand drug addiction can be a difficult habit to break, but how many times should I go through this, and should I give him another chance before walking away?

He also lied to me the first time about even doing the drug. I feel there is no trust here, mostly on my part.

For those of you who have gone through this or helped someone you love go through this, any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks-God Bless

Let me just state for the record we do not have children.....but I was hoping someday. I'm only 23, not yet ready for the family life.

I didn't know he has a problem at first. This just came up a few months ago when I noticed he was really acting strange, kind of changing before my eyes into a scared and preoccupied person, unaware that he thinks everyone is out to get him when he is on the drug. That's mostly how I can tell. He becomes very paranoid, especially at night.

Answer 1

I am a recovering heroin addict 19 months sober. Anyhow usually when you suspect someone you are close to is using your RIGHT. You know his behavior and patterns better then anyone. On the other hand i found drug related caps needles cotton spoons and stuff FOR MONTHS in my house in my coat pockets or old purses sometimes that stuff lingers after you are done. I use to do coke to but i never cared for it like Heroin i still found straws and rolled up paper after i had stopped using. You have to relise he can't promise not to use again he's A ADDICT!. You can ONLY take care of how you handle his issues. You can't make him go to meeting you can go get support for you. He may never stop untill he loses everything including YOU. It has to be his choice you can't want it or force it you'll fail every time. There are boards online where you can get a better answer from recovering addicts and family of addicts. LOOK UP THE ADDICTION RECOVEDRY GUIDE online they have a family message board and a coke board i think it would help you a lot.

Answer 2

You know the answer to your question. A rolled bill, a cut straw, a razor blade, loose credit card nasal spray any signs like that should tell you. The next question how long was he using? You should already know his signs, you should be able to smell it on his breath or when he sweats as well as how he acts. Perhaps not when hes ON but when he runs out and comes down. The problem is not him falling off the wagon. He is trying and has been. You need to take responsibility for your actions. If you were his enabler and aloud it. Admit it and work on how you can change and to help support him. If that is not the case and he was abusive to you, then you are still drawing lines in the sand . He lied to you the first time and you drew a line" don't do it again". He did did you stand strong or make another line in the sand? Are you perfectly honest with him? Can you measure up to your own standards you put on him? I speak from experience. Every one plays a roll and need to be responsible for there own actions you can't make him change. You can only control how you react or handle what he does. Perhaps he is not the only one with the problem. The problem is you are scared to take control of your own life and stand strong with what you believe and want. I'm sorry this got wordy. I wish you and him the very best. If any of this help you I'm Glad and your welcome. If it didn't I'm sorry i wasted your time ! No one said it would be easy....Life that is!

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If I found a rolled up dollar bill in my husbands pants pocket, is it safe to assume he is doing coke again?
My husband, drug free for about 60 days, was discovered to have a rolled up dollar bill in his pocket this morning. I'm not stupid and I know what that is used for. And after the strange behaviors last night I'm pretty sure he was on coke. Is it safe to assume that after 2 months he hooked...

Answer 4

Take the rolled up dollar to the police dept. tell them what you think is going on. They will check it easily enough for illegal substance. If it is not coke then you can breath easily. If it is coke then you can not only divorce him but show he now has a criminal substance abuse record. You are in the proverbial cat-bird seat as they say. You can also choose to ignore the problem and just wonder why you don't get birthday presents, why rent is always late, wonder why your kids don't wear new clothes. It all went up his nose. Guess what? It doesn't stop there. Soon he'll be needing extra $'s to keep his habit going. Don't be surprised by the knock on the door and find you both are going to jail. I believe the term is accessory to the fact!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

There are plausible reasons for this that does *not* involve cheating. 1. He may have picked these up because it was free. Did he visit a school or hospital recently? If not, then you have reason to be suspicious. 2. Are these typical condoms or a special kind - like ribbed, extra thin, fire and ice type...etc. He might want to try something new in bed with you. If they're just normal condoms, you have reason to be suspicious. Be alert, but don't confront until you gather more evidence.

Answer 7

Again...Well, I'm sorry to say...The drugs are stronger than you or him. Drugs are something that you are never 'cured' from. He will always do and you will always wonder. That's just a decision you have to put your foot down and stick to. Are you planning a family? There's birth defects linked to drug use. Are you prepared for that risk?
The FIRST requirement in a relationship is communication. The second is trust. It appears that you don't really have a relationship...just an arrangement.
Good luck

Answer 8

I can sympathize with you completely. I am still going through it after 13 years. He lied to me from the very beginning about doing it, and so it has left me feeling very deceived.
Let me say there are plenty of people that recover from their addiction, but it has to be something that THEY want..not you. At some point, you have to do what is best for you, and not him. Don't be like me, and find yourself asking the same questions 13 years later.
Keep in mind that most times a drug abuser will lie when confronted, so follow your gut instinct on this one.

Answer 9

Sorry to say this, but my friend ended up having to leave her husband because of this. They reconciled about a year later, moved to another state, things were OK for a while and then she discovered he was doing drugs again, not just coke but also smoking crack.
She left him again, this time for good, because she cannot deal with his inability to stop using drugs. I feel bad for their two little children, they really don't understand and it hurts them.
I think you probably need to get out of the situation, walk away, all the heartache is not worth it.

Answer 10

It sounds like he did in fact did some kind of drugs last night..It really depends on the individual and the sincerity of trying to maintain a clean lifestyle..He may have suffered some kind of trigger point that brought this on..I recommend that he get in some kind of program if he isn't already attend the meetings with him..its not going to be easy as you already know...sometimes you may think is this all worth it? It all depends on you and just how much can you endure. It is doable (staying clean). Good Luck.